I’m a curry fiend.
I love it.
In fact, I love it so much the other night I told my husband I need to open a shop called “WebDom’s House of Pain” and it will only sell curry.
But, like all things I do, I don’t exactly play by the rules, so my curry dishes are more like a curry-ish because I love to throw in things you wouldn’t traditionally find in that type of curry.
This week’s vegan school recipe is for my quick and easy pineapple curry.
This recipe is pretty free-form, and it uses a curry paste as the base. It also uses frozen vegetables. This is what makes it “quick and easy” compared to my usual curries where I make the sauce 100% from scratch and use only fresh vegetables. Once it’s assembled you can basically walk away and let it simmer, only stirring every 5 or 10 minutes.
I use this red curry paste as it’s what is available somewhat locally. Any red curry paste would yield a fairly close result.
I use this coconut milk, which I have found to be superior to all other coconut milks. It’s very thick and very coconutty.
I use this not chicken base to make the 8 cups of not chicken broth.
Quick and Easy Pineapple Curry
- 1 pkg extra firm tofu (drained, cubed)
- 1 sm sweet onion (diced)
- 8 baby carrots (chopped)
- 1/2 bag frozen red peppers and onions
- 1/2 bag frozen peas
- 1/2 bag frozen cauliflower
- 1 can pineapple chunks (15oz can)
Sauce
- 8 cups not chicken broth
- 1 tbsp nutritional yeast
- 1 tbsp soy sauce
- 1 can coconut milk (see notes)
- 1 can red curry paste (see notes)
- black pepper (to taste)
- sesame seeds (to taste)
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Dry fry the tofu until browned on all sides. You may use a little oil to coat the pan. I do not but that is a personal preference.
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Add all the veggies. Add the sauce ingredients. Simmer, stirring occasionally, for 45 minutes or until sauce is thick.
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Serve over rice. Top with black pepper and sesame seeds to taste.
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250 responses to “Vegan School: Quick and Easy Pineapple Curry”
At least its not on a pizza, amirite ?
Now hit that sweet mother-fkin’ Theme Music !
I use the yard-bird version of Better Than Bouillon all the time. It’s dope af.
If she wants to stay in the will and collect those vast riches, she better not put it on a pizza.
I’ll do it.
Sometimes I think you are just a trouble maker.
Sometimes?
I must be off my game.
Damn your nimble fingers!
“I’m a
curryfiend.”FIFY
😉
This looks great. I love pineapple in appropriate uses.
As long as you don’t put it on pizza.
Good one, Ted.
Thank you.
Did anyone mention pizza?
I think Lou Reed did.
Curried jackfruit is a common dish in South Asia. Raw Jackfruit tastes pretty similar to pineapple. By the time they are done with the curry, it’s very very spicy.
I may have to try this. I love your cooking posts.
Thank you! Let me know how it goes!
I ? curry, but ya gotta put some meat in there…
DJT crushing it in Houston. Dude is having fun. ??✊
I might try this. Don’t know if the kids will eat it willingly, but it’s worth a shot.
You might be surprised.
Looks yummy.
Thanks!
That looks good but alas… the OBE household is doing smoked brisket [from yesterday] chili and rice. Using some green chilies I roasted a month ago and had frozen.
That sounds interesting!
I’ve had curry once and I liked it. I think I’d like to try this. I am not using tofu, so would I just substitute some pork? Chicken? Yes?
Yes
What ever you want. Curry is the libertarianism of foods.
It fights with every other food?
Curry moment!
pffft!
Throw in some hot peppers, a pinch of ganja, and a couple tablespoons of grain alcohol to make it the Glibertarianism of foods?
Show it to an Indian cook and he’ll give it a solid try.
(alcohol might exclude up to 25% of Pakistani cooks)
This is pretty damn close.
In case you’re wondering what bhang leaf is.
I thought that was gumbo?
Jambalaya.
Chicken or lamb would be good. Pork may or may not work.
Yeah, chicken or pork would work.
Cool. Thanks for the recipe, it sounds really good.
Tres Cool Curry Chicken (pressure cooker)®
2 breasts cubed
I medium onion, diced
2-4 cloves garlic
Curry powder
2 cups chicken broth
I cup sliced mushrooms
salt/pepper
Sour cream
1-2 tablespoons corn starch
Cube and brown chicken in pan, using some oil. Remove and set aside.
Add more oil (couple tablespoons), and cooked diced onions with S & P. Once they’re nearly clear, add garlic for another 2-3 minutes.
toss in 3 tablespoons curry powder. Cook until your kitchen smells like kandahar.
Add back chicken, stir till its that pretty yellow, throw in mushrooms, stir…..add broth.
Bring to a boil, slap on lid, pour the coal to it, and cook at med pressure (weight gently DAINCIN) for 15 minutes.
Quick release with cold water, take out solids with a slotted spoon.
Add corn starch to liquid, bring to boil for at least 1 minute while whisking
Add 1/3 cup sour cream, whisk MOAR, put back chicken and everything else.
Simmer until it cooks down to w/e thickness you like.
Serve over rice with garlic pita.
Had me all the way until the last two words. Rice and pita? Choose one and by one I mean the rice.
The sauce and meat is poured over rice. I meant naan instead of pita…..
The naan is your scooper-upper
Naan is better than rice. Manna from heaven.
We went to our friends’ son’s Bar Mitzvah this week where all the food was vegan.
It was actually pretty good, because it was all Asian themed, and rice, noodles, curry, pot stickers and spring rolls all can be pretty good without meat, as long as you have lots of good sauces and a good mix of vegetables in everything.
Where we’ve had problems with this same couple in the past — especially their vegan wedding reception years ago — was their trying to serve foods that really need non-vegan ingredients (like a wedding cake needs eggs and butter; theirs was like hardtack) and serving the main dish of a single portobello mushroom and little else on the plate. Later I saw people sneaking beef jerky from their cars. Earliest I’ve ever seen a wedding end (although having a “new age” band playing for the ‘dance’ part pretty much removed any hope for levity. At least most booze is vegan, so that’s mostly what we had that evening.
vegan substitutes for non-vegan food usually sucks. Vegan recipes designed from the ground up are usually decent.
I’m trying to remember if our wedding cake was vegan or gluten free. Maybe it was gluten free, now that I think about it. Not that we cared, it was just the best tasting cake at the shop.
That’s where I’m at. Just serve me a vegetable dish. I don’t mind…I like veggies. Just don’t try and tell me that your tofu burger tastes like beef.
Tofu burgers don’t.
According to SP the Beyond Burger is pretty close to meat.
There’s non-vegan booze? Serious question, I can’t think of any. Unless there’s some butterscotch flavored stuff with real butter, but…?
some beer may use isinglass to clarify
Egg whites are sometimes used in wine making.
Huh. I’ve heard of finings, but I guess I never really knew what it was.
White Russians?
LOL
Seems kind of ungracious to impose your food beliefs on all those guests like that.
At first I was thinking the same. But I guess if you are vegan for moral reasons, I can’t really blame you for not taking part in the killing of a delicious animal just for my sake.
I dunno. I see where you/they are coming from. I have to ponder it some more. I suppose at the end of the day I’d be one of ingrates sneaking jerky in my car.
Oh, I probably would too! I just wouldn’t hold a grudge while doing it. Ha-ha.
Now, if they are vegans for health reasons and they are foisting their eating habits upon us all, I would definitely describe that as ungracious…and probably even eat the jerky in front of them.
Also:
Euphamism?
Curry? Fine.
Pineapple? Fine.
Tofu? Not a chance.
Tofu = ch
tickfen thiughs>You’ve probably not had tofu made properly. My husband is a carnivore and was anti-tofu when we met, and now he eats it like fingerfood. Tofu, when I prepare it, is fucking delicious.
Yep, it’s all about the preparation. If tofu is even remotely reminiscent of jello, it’s poorly prepared.
Personally, I only do extra-firm tofu. I don’t want soy flavored scrambled eggs or soy flavored jello in my food.
I’ve never seen jello tofu. But foam rubber tofu is fairly common.
The fruit of the soybean is evil and not to be eaten in any form.
And this concludes our reading from UCS’s Letter to the Glibs; chapter 1, verse 1.
So say we all.
Why do you hate America?
I love America, which is why I wish the nation to be free from its sins.
I use tofu to substitute for egg whites in egg salad. Cannot abide by egg whites.
Like my wife. Hates pork and fish but I suspect it was due to improperly cooked. Tofu done right is good. It holds the flavor you give it
Tofu in miso soup? Fine. Curry? Nah.
I think curry is a good application for tofu. It soaks up flavor, you just need to get the texture right.
It’s not right in Indian curry, IMO. It’s perfect in Southeast Asian curry. Tofu jungle curry is food of the gods, but I could never get SP to eat it.
I make curry at least once a week. Usually, just go with the curry roux, but will make that from scratch if I have time. For the life of me I can’t figure out how to make naan. Tried and failed about a half dozen times.
Try and fail to make leavened bread.
I made the pretzel rolls yesterday. Those are dangerous. In the future, I can only make them for a dinner party.
I know. I’m glad I’m out of yeast, or I might make more.
I need to figure out naan, too. If I do, I’ll let you know.
Naan is easy. Just go to an Indian market and buy it fresh. This is my go to spot in Irvine, CA https://yelp.to/qTKq/NvC667SPeR
Naan requires very, very high temperatures, which is why it’s cooked in a tandoor. However, the home cook can achieve success with making roti if they have a tava pan.
^^^what he said
So the slapping sound I hear coming from the kitchen is the cook taking his anger out on the waitress?
No, that’s him adding his secret sauce to the batter.
And I would STILL eat it.
So you’re saying you’ve never had properly made naan.
OK, even I admit that this time, there could be no other macro.
A large, thick, and disgustingly hot cast iron pan can be used to make naan without a tandoor oven, but you’re making one piece at a time and your timing has to be pretty much perfect, since you’re relying on the excess conductive heat of the cast iron to make up for the lack of convective heat you’d have in a tandoor. It isn’t a perfect match, but it’s pretty damn close. My girlfriend makes her naan this way since she doesn’t have the space to fit let alone use a tandoor, I’ll see if I can snag her recipe/technique.
Its my understanding that you dont need an oven to bake naan. Its more like a kiln.
I saw a naan “machine” for lack of a better word at this hole in the wall joint near Wall Street I used to eat at a lot – no idea how the thing worked, it looked like a spinning drum or something. But it would pop out amazing fresh naans.
Needs to be really fucking hot. Do you have 800+ degree oven?
Maybe he does. You ever think about that, tough guy? Huh?
Big Green Egg!
Actually, I’ve never seen anyone cook naan in those. But I can’t imagine why it wouldn’t work.
I’m planning to do a pumpkin layer cake for our monster cake challenge. It’ll be fun to see our different interpretations.
I have some time Thursday, so I may be a step ahead of you. Original or googled. Haven’t made up my mind.
That sounds delicious!
Last weekend I fixed an elderly lady’s heater for her. It was in the crawl space above a closet. Well, no good dead goes unpunished, and my back has been killing me for a week.
It was suggested to me that a bath, properly done, might help, so tonight I spent some time soaking in my own filth, various salts, and oils such as eucalyptus, peppermint, and cloves.
My back does not feel any better, perhaps worse from trying to get comfortable in a standard American tub.
I have, however, concluded that I would make a very tasty soup or stew.
Rx – long soak in a jetted hot tub with one of the Q’uties.
add alcohol, some light opiates, and a muscle relaxer. Aka- the Karen Quinlan
With eucalyptus?
Only for koalas.
While I am a proponent of baths to soothe aches and pains, I admit the effects generally don’t last much longer than it takes to towel off.
Ice baths are brutal but they work.
-1 shrinkage.
This is therapy, not a pleasant soak.
Got to be as hot as you can stand, then stretch when you get out. Or, get a deep tissue massage.
deep tissue massage
So exactly how many ply does your kleenex need to be to count as deep?
I made a Jamaican curry yesterday. Chicken, sweet and white potato, scallions, onions, and red chillies. The spice was a madras curry, clove, thyme, garlic, ginger, salt, and pepper. Coconut milk base. Served over jasmine rice.
We will eat it today, tomorrow, and Wednesday.
Pics. https://imgur.com/gallery/ecLog9o
Hrmm. Sounds okay. Nothing like it was on the menu of the Jamaican food place when I worked at the office closer to it. That is, however, the only place I’ve eaten goat. (I highly recommend the jerk goat with fried sweet plantains)
I don’t care what the other Glibs say about you. You’re all right in my book.
seco de chivo was my favorite goat dish.
Nothing like a Trini goat roti.
Damn that looks good.
It is typically served as breakfast according to the recipe. goat curries are really good.
Might explain it, I only got lunches from that place.
Can I come over and pick out the sweet potatoes?
It was that or squash. I don’t like squash at all except for the seeds.
What’s wrong with sweet potatoes?
The taste 🙁
Truth-plain and simple
This was my inspiration recipe
https://www.saveur.com/article/Recipes/Curried-Chicken
Nice. I will try it.
Thanks!
Holy shit. That’s quite a web site.
Are you kidding me?
Wood.
Yum. Unfortunately, I don’t have any of those ingredients lying around. (Well, except eggs.)
Grappa is just Italian moonshine. My great grandfather made it and used a bunch of different herbs/fruits/spices in it. Harsh when fresh, but awesome stuff after awhile.
I’m gonna try to find this one or make it myself.
I’d like to find some grappa of good quality one of these days. I’m in southwest Ohio, so it’s not like we have a huge Italian-American community or something.
My only experience with grappa was when I picked up a bottle of “Grappa Julia” on clearance at the liquor store. Big mistake. I ended up giving that away to some major boozehound from work.
Well, grappa is the quintessential ‘acquired taste’. I think in a cocktail it might be more accessible.
There’s good grappa and there’s the majority of grappa, also known as “rocket fuel”.
They are really kind of pretentious, but I don’t care if the stuff is good.
Oh I also added carrots.
I can’t get used to West Indian curries over jasmine rice. It has to be basmati for me.
I have Thai rice, rissotto, and brown rice in big bags. These three are all I buy.
It has to be basmati for me.
Yes, it must be basmati.
Now THAT’S more like it.
I know I care what the people of France think about the US. Clearly the people who have brought us burka bans, hate speech laws, and perpetually ghettoized immigration have a firm grasp on pluralism and cultural engagement.
Damn him. There he goes again being refreshingly right and dead wrong at the same time.
No, Donny. Countries selling us cheap stuff isn’t being ripped off.
Yes Donny. Paying for everyone else’s defense is being ripped off
Yes Donny. At last a US president who is not trying to be loved by the likes of Angie Merkle at the expense of the US interests.
Both globalism and nationalism are stupid. Give me some of that ol’ fashioned individualism.
Yes! Nationalism is creepy.
And for the anti-Trump crowd, it’s far too easy to make ‘nationalism’ into the belief he was really saying ‘white nationalism’.
What HM said
Web Dom: you probably already know about these, but if you’re in a hurry, these are pretty decent. I’m no longer a vegetarian, but I’d still get them
Also, the recipe looks good. Sometimes I wish I wasn’t lazy AF.
Web Dom, my wife has been making vegan or vegetarian recipes from a pretty good cook book called Thug Kitchen. Beyond the stupid in your face style it has some great recipes that this meat eater really enjoys.
The pineapple curry sounds great. I do like tofu if it is spiced and cooked well.
I made roasted kabocha squash agnolotti tonight in a brown butter sage sauce. That’s as close to vegan as I get.
You guys call it “Kabocha”. Interesting. I saw a TV program that described how the word is from “Campuchea” where the Japanese imported pumpkins from.
Welcome to Campuchea.
That’s not surprising.
I make a lentil soup that could easily be adapted for vegans:
Saute mirepoix and garlic in a pan with olive oil. Once you’re confident that you’ve gotten enough flavor out out of the garlic, dump this into a slow cooker or a large pot on the stove. Add a can or two of crushed tomatoes along with some white wine. Pour in the dry lentils, then add enough vegetable broth to cover them. Add some salt, pepper, parsley, and rosemary. Cook for several hours, and add more liquid as needed (the lentils will soak up quite a bit). Adjust seasonings and serve.
If you were making the carnivore version, you’d use ham or chicken broth and add some chopped ham or smoked sausage. I also like to saute an anchovy or two with the mirepoix – a little secret ingredient that adds a lot of umami flavor to the finished dish.
Ooh, I’ll have to try the anchovy trick.
It does wonders with red sauce, too! It made the boldest, zestiest pot of meat sauce I ever made, but you’d never guess there was salted fish in it.
Hmmm, I may have to toss a couple of anchovies into my next pot of spaghetti sauce. Takes it into the Sicilian realm.
Curry here tonight as well, but with butternut squash that I had peeled, cubed, and charred first. Heat was just at SP’s tolerance limit.
Yes, the Wonder Dog begged for the leftovers and cleaned our bowls to a molecular level. So clean, we just put them back in the cabinet.
Substituting squash for the tofu would be interesting. I could get behind that.
I’m always fond of saying “Im not a very smart man, Jen-nay”, cause it’s true. But could some Glibs with a legal leaning tell me why I shouldnt like this guy ?
Because he called a Maltese or Bichon Frise a “beagle”?
Definitely a Bichon.
I’m reminded of a touching love song.
Another touching love song
This is shaping up to the be the Glibs version of Rick-rolling.
Completely unrelated, have you heard about this?
More love song .
Sort of apropos to my first link. Sort of.
Needs more spurts .
The elevator music version.
He didnt know that bichon rhymes with l’aison, or he woulda used it.
Still not sufficient grounds.
Slightly OT: For most of the last 20 years, I’ve kept a stock-pot full of apple juice spiced with cinnamon sticks, cloves, whole nutmeg, and whole allspice simmering on the stove top during the cold months. My wife and I were talking today, and realized that (now that we’re doing keto) that’s not going to fly for this winter. So I’m looking for something else I can keep on the stove as a hot drink that’s not a liquid form of sugar.
Needs more stevia.
Absolutely. If I could find an apple juice made with stevia, I’d be in heaven.
Im doing an ersatz keto (<50g carbs)….I find I can make some solid lemonade from 12 stevia packets, 1 1/2 cups of lemon juice, and 5 cups of water
Adjust to taste.
That sounds interesting. Does it work as a hot lemonade as well?
Dunno.
Put it in the microwave.
Try Torani sugar free syrups for sweetening. They have lots of different flavors.
I can’t stand stevia. Horrible taste.
With your carb counting do you do total carbs or net carbs?
I must admit that some days I keep low carb but due to sweets cravings have a couple of Atkins bars or Quest Heroes, which have a lot of carbs listed on the nutrition facts, but due to fiber content or alternate sugars only have 3-4 ‘net’ carbs per serving, which make it possible for me to record a <20 gm carb day. Do you find this to be legit in your experience?
(I do still notice good weight loss, even on days where the carbs are net carbs rather than actual, especially since it's only net carbs in hard liquor!)
Ive read that ‘net carbs’ due to sugar alcohol and fiber is junk science.
I stay carb-deficient all day so I can enjoy shitty light beer at night and not have to do the math. If I took the keto thing more seriously, Id be more of an ass than I already am.
Lots of times alternate sugars means sweetened with malitol, which will give you mad gas if you’re not careful. If you sleep alone, you may not care, but otherwise…you’ve been warned.
I wouldn’t keep it on the stove, but my favorite tea is “I love lemon” from Bigelow. It’s sunshine in a cup.
Keep the kettle on the stove.
Wife’s got us doing keto-ish. No Louisiana satsumas this year. Or rice. Kill me now.
Beef broth
Sometimes I make “hot water with lemon”, which is hot water (that’s right) steeped in the spices you mentioned along with a squirt of lemon juice. I always put sugar in it, but maybe you could try it with Stevia or something.
Thanks for the suggestions. I’ll have to give some of these a try.
Does this comment apply to the pic below?
Lol.
I’ve eaten more ass than rectal cancer.
/come @ me
The Capri Sun is a nice touch.
My after-school snack.
That looks like a sunny-d kid to me
Wah?! No Sunny-D?!?!!!!!11!!??!?!!?
Is that James Tiberius Yorke (Ryan Cooley) from television’s Degrassi: The Next Generation?
So I remember someone bitching about McAfee anti-virus (you have my sword!) and blaming John McAfee for it (sword is rescinded).
The man hadn’t had anything to do with it for twenty years. So unless you’re still running Win95, it’s not his fault his name is now stapled to basically malware.
But, because he’s kind and just, here’s from the Man himself: how to get rid of McAffee antivirus.
I like the boxes of bath salts
I… wow.
That. Guy. Is. My. Fucking. Hero.
You had one job, America. Make the guy the President. And not even Libertarian Party could do what is right. Shame! SHAME!
*Nods head sadly*
Damn right, SHAME!
Imagine the woke comedy types whose heads would have exploded if he had been elected. ‘Cause, he would have been genuinely funny, cracking wise over things that progs hold sacred.
The rending of clothes and shitting of selves would be epic.
#MineToo
I knew that’s how he was going to solve that Belize style.
That was…delightful.
Maybe I’ll re-ask this some other time when there’s more people around, but here we are:
I’m curious about getting a Raspberry Pi and doing some coding and making a project. I used to be (read 30 years ago) sort-of tech savvy and I want to be again. Where is a good place to start?
Youtube videos and google searches are all one needs. I personally haven’t done any raspberry pie stuff, but I’ve started other very nerdy projects that way, like running linux off a thumbdrive to use a laptop with a dead HD on the cheap and a lot of other interesting but not entirely useful things.
10-4. Thanks, bud. Will check it out tomorrow. Way overdue for bedtime…
g’night all.
This. I’m not into that but I’ve seen *tons* of references to it just doing my usual programmer internet self-teaching stuff.
“I’m curious about getting a Raspberry Pi and doing some coding and making a project.”
I’m not meaning to harsh your techie buzz dude, but… why? I remember about a year ago, one of my client’s project managers bought some of those things. We all looked at them and were like ‘that’s cool’. Nothing ever happened with them and I don’t know what happened to them. They’re basically just toys to fuck around with and not very useful ones. Instead, if you want to do something cool, try getting into some type of robotics entry level project. That might be cool. I’d do if I had time. I mean with the eventual goal of building an army of sexbot slaves to take over the world.
I think that’s why he wants one. He’s not talking about wasting business money on it, Just like I said above about learning to run computers without a HD off a flash drive wasn’t useful, but it was interesting to do. Sometimes the pursuit is the reason, kind of like hunting.
Yeah, I know. I was just suggesting robotics as an actual useful learning alternative that would still be tons of fun. I sometimes work on a project with a dev whose kids have been entering a worldwide robotic competition for a few years now and they’ve actual made it to the finals at the US level for the last 2 years. He’s pretty bright, not surprised his kids are that smart.
Arduino, I build light shows and synthesizers, easy coding, Cheap fun
But will they be programmed to give affirmative consent?
Hell no, hence the ‘slave’ part.
I am watching this video instead of Pornhub.
I do not regret my choice.
If the panty-stuffin NYPD cop lived in Kyoto, she could make a decent living selling those things.
Her panties stop global warming?
Give Osomatsu san a shot. The guys that made Doraemon wanted a vehicle for more adult humor.
Please explain “sheh”
Sheh? Does it say that? BTW, I should’ve linked to 4:50. On my stupid phone.
I just watched last night’s Supergirl episode, where a new character was revealed to be transgender, so I just did a quick search to see if the actress really was (because that was a whole kerfuffle with progs on another project where a cisgender female was going to play a transgender character) anyway, the actress is transgender, and passes fairly well. So I just did a little more looking into it and she was on Ellen, where she said she knew she was transgender at 3 or 4. at 3 years old my nephew wasn’t even potty trained yet and thought he was a girl because he only had sisters, and his siblings were girls, so that meant he was. I can get if a someone at 20 or older still feels they are trans (I still don’t think the best option is surgery, I mean if your identity is based on appearance, that’s not much of an identity) but her family apparently took the meanderings of a child as truth and when she was in elementary school sued her school for discrimination on bathroom shit. So this really feels like a sad story, now I’m not glaad I looked into it.
I’m guessing what she means is she knew she was “different” at that age (or more likely somewhat later). I knew I liked dudes long before I knew what it was called or that it was “wrong”. But I don’t go around saying “I knew I was gay when I was 7” or whatnot. Because that would be ridiculous.
But what if as a child you had told your parents something that made them think you were totally completely balls to the wall straight, and because you said that, that is what they reinforced on not only you, but everyone around you from that point on? To the point where your parents would sue your school because you were straight and everyone assumed you were gay. Doesn’t that sound just a tad like it might manipulate how you thought of yourself? And to add to that, in such a scenario ‘being straight’ meant you had to alter your mind and body to achieve the goal? I mean, to me the whole transitioning of immature people sounds as crazy as the ‘pray the gay away’ crowd.
I don’t have an answer to that.
As it happens, I never any any such conversation with anyone in my family. I must have had some cunning instinct from my earliest years that told me not to talk about such things with them.
I do agree that my family’s non-communicative approach was better for me in the long run.
I had a few friends who came out as gay after High School. And to everyone who knew them the reactions was pretty much, yeah, we knew. But somehow they still had this mentality that because people didn’t care that meant people were hostile to them. Sometimes I really don’t get people.
If they were like me, maybe they felt very alone until college or so. It can fuck with your head.
I don’t know your personal history, but two of them were very close friends of mine, and when they came out were openly hostile to people who knew the whole time but never cared. So it seems like a personal issue to me, the need to feel victimized when they never were.I mean, I can understand the fear of broaching such a topic, hell I’ve never talked openly with many of my friends or family about my abstinence, sexual shit is personal, I get that. I can get that part on a personal level about not saying anything. But to be offended that no one was offended when you came out, that’s something else entirely.
People who fuck up otherwise happy little kids that are simply exploring this big old world they were plopped in deserve some special treatment in the afterlife.
The same nephew this last summer thought if he stood in this one specific place he would lure aliens to come to him. Kids are adorable, but not to be trusted on interpretation of reality.
So, he’s in on Hillary and John Podesta’s secret alien connections.
I think he’s be quoted several times by various news outlets as ‘someone who knows how the president thinks’
Did it work?
Sadly, no, but I was proud he thought to experiment with the idea, rather than accept it as fact because he thought of it.
*narrows gayze*
Took long enough. This place is slipping.
It’s just….we expect so much better from you, is all.
😉
Jeez dude. I just got to it.
LOL. Nice “catch”.
I wonder how much of a role society had in the development of my personality. We often have relatives who are total opposites despite growing up in the same household. I don’t understand how I grow up in a nonreligious household but ended up with morals and values reflecting a Protestant work ethic.
As someone who has experience in this realm, I have to say that the evidence points to both heredity and environment playing a role in these things. How much will of course be different since everyone is also an individual. That doesn’t help any, but it’s what I’ve seen evidence of.
It’s an interesting question. My situation is similar to yours – nonreligious household, and I’m still not religious, but I apparently picked up some values that are usually associated with religion (working hard, not giving yourself over to envy, de-emphasis on material goods, exercising control and caution with regards to sex, etc.)
I’m also the political black sheep of my family – they’re all varying degrees of Leftist.
PS: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is an awesome book. Even though he has a tendency to repeat himself, it’s still worth reading all the way through.
Thanks. That would be a fun book to read.
I’m the only one in the family with these values. I never curse. I plan to remain celibate until marriage. I never make sexual jokes but I’m fine using dark humor. Very frugal and hard working. Even for dating, I’ve only been interested in dedicated christians. I’m an atheist but I’m convinced I’m supposed to end up with a Christian girl.
Women who practice personal responsibility is a turn on to me as well, too bad they don’t have that checkbox on dating sites.
If they did, most people would check that box. Everybody thinks they work hard and practice personal responsibility.
Oof…That seems like it would be rather tough. If she’s a true believer, I would think that, ultimately, she (or, you) would break it off. That being, I would imagine that she would be hoping/thinking/praying that she’s going to bring you around. Is that something you’re open to? If so, I would encourage you to explore it outside of a romantic relationship (not that you haven’t before-just bringing it up in regards to your post).
If you’re talking more about a “cultural Christian”, that might work, but, I would think it’s no better, in that she may very well be rather weak in her philosophy, or, even her character. Not a guarantee, but that may be something you lose respect over (i.e. not being truly genuine).
And here I am, saying all this and I definitely haven’t done a good job living the way you’ve described
Not trying to be negative, per se, and definitely not trying to be snarky. That was just a rather surprising statement to me-enough for me to ask/post.
Meh, I’m a former alter boy who considered becoming a priest, stopped going to church for reasons other than the faith, and here I am. This site is the stew that feeds souls, fuck that Chicken Soup For The Soul bullshit.
Well, I’m not questioning him being here (dang it, I presumed his gender!). Or, you, for that matter. I’m just wondering about the draw towards a particular belief system that he doesn’t exactly share, for a future romantic relationship. Or, if I misunderstood something/anything about his view (something I do often enough).
And, I’m just pointing out a particular belief system doesn’t necessarily lead to problems, as long as the preferred outcome is arrived at.
If he (damnit I assumed xer gender to) is celibate, and believes so regardless of a faith system, what other pool of dating candidates is there other than churchies? I’d like to know, because I’m in the same boat.
I definitely see your point, and I should probably clarify a few things:
* I had/have no intentions for hashing out any theology here-just curious about VI’s comment and the “meat” of it
* I’m coming form a Protestant/Evangelical p.o.v., but I am presuming some overall unity with an RC outlook. (apologies to resident LDS believers-I can’t really speak on probable similarities here)
* It wasn’t my intent to focus on celibacy, but I see your point
I was thinking about biblical passages that have been interpreted to be warnings for Christians to not marry non-Christians. There are, of course passages that talk about marriages that have both kinds of spouses, and how the Christian should behave, but, I think that addresses already-married couples/isn’t about dating. And, just to be sure I say it, I’m not asking about this as I look down my nose at anyone-it is genuine curiosity, and a desire to be helpful, if I can.
I can see how the dating pool can be limited in this situation, and it being affected by this being the U.S. and who makes up the population. In my limited knowledge, I don’t have any better answer, although I don’t see as great of a divide your you, CPRM, since I don’t see a Catholic/Protestant relationship having similar issues as what VI mentioned, but I admit I could be wrong about that.
In any case, I hope for the best, and would love to minimize any unnecessary disappointment for anyone to whom this situation applies.
Now, hopefully, Chafed can sum this up better than I did!
VI you may want to explore why. Sir Digby is on to something about the clash of faith/no faith. I can’t tell you it won’t work but that’s quite a hill to climb.
Chafed is able to say it well in a sentence. Dang.
Kudos, dude.
Children rebel is probably the quickest answer without any other facts. Although, humans aren’t automatons only programmed by the world around us. I do think tabula rasa is a junk theory. But so is the opposite. It’s somewhere in the mix and some people I’m more influenced to one side or the other. Genomic recombination is still something, despite have the same mother and father, there are a multitude of ways those can combine to create an individual.
My nephews teenage sister is one of the ones caught up in The Pronoun Wars. She wants to be called They/Them not because she she thinks she should have been born with a dick, but because her interests are those usually for boys, which is something I fostered through out her life in an attempt to actually make the world make more sense, because your sex doesn’t determine your interests, but because I have taught her that she now thinks she’s ‘something else’ (I think I’ve never used this abbreviation before, but) SMDH. My attempt to raise a someone who doesn’t use their gender to define themselves has been turned around to only define her by what gender she identifies as. SMDH.
Make her call you “your majesty” and see how long it lasts.
Oh, wait for my Thursday night post.