Wednesday Morning Sloopy is Sleeping-In Links

With most of Houston shut down due to freakishly cold weather pussyitis, Sloopy decided to get some extra sleep leaving me to provide you with the links.  To be fair, everyone drives like an asshole in Houston  when there isn’t ice on the road.  I have been rear-ended twice in a span of less than two months.

And now…for the links!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s a song my daughters insist on listening to every time we get into a car.

 

Ya’ll enjoy the rest of your day, I’m going to curl up in my bed and refuse to come out until the temperature is back above 30.

Comments

494 responses to “Wednesday Morning Sloopy is Sleeping-In Links”

  1. PieInTheSKy

    Kentucky Man arrested for showing up to work intoxicated. – but if he doesn’t drink his hands shake and thats not good in a surgeon

    1. LJW

      You might be right I’m a better dart and pool player when I’ve had a few drinks… Or maybe I just perceive myself as a better player.

      1. straffinrun

        Hit the tumor in the middle.

      2. Lachowsky

        I perform better at billiards and darts after 3 drinks but before 8. That’s the sweet spot.

        1. 2 pints, I am invincible at the dart board. One more, back to mediocrity. I never learn, though.

          1. commodious spittoon

            Pints are much more fun than darts.

        2. Hyperion

          I’ve noted that I’m better at video gaming after several beers, but that declines after several more as my attention to detail and reaction time seems to falter.

          I’m just wondering if the guy was noticeably intoxicated or he just smelled of alcohol. These days, that doesn’t seem to matter much. They probably have a zero tolerance alcohol policy, so that if the guy was .01, he would get fired. Still not sure why he would have been arrested.

          1. Funny, when I played Battlefield on the regular I’d fix a martini an hour and do very, very well. Any faster and I’d get sloppy, any fewer and I’d be too jumpy.

        3. robc

          Same here.

        4. Bobarian LMD

          At darts, I have a 3-7 beer range of effectiveness.

          But pool, I continue to get better right up until the table starts to sway and move around. Which is more beer than I drink these days.

          I was cool at the pool hall…

  2. PieInTheSKy

    Meteoroid over Michigan, which would make for a decent band name. – Russia has much better meteors than the US tbh

    1. Slammer

      In Soviet Russia, Motherland hit meteor

    2. That’s not a meteor. It’s just a giant buckeye smashing into Ann Arbor like it’s done every other year for nearly two decades.

      1. WTF

        Jeez, these euphemisms!

      2. OneOut

        I thought you were supposed to be asleep ?

    3. The US has the best meteors! Classy meteors! Romania has crappy meteors. Sad!

  3. Meteor credited for bright light, noise rattling Michigan.

    And I thought that was my sweet sex moves.

    1. AlexinCT

      BOW CHIGGY BOW BOW!

  4. Lachowsky

    “A Lexington, Ky. doctor was arrested Monday after he showed up to perform surgery under the influence of alcohol, according to reports.”

    I could see him getting fired or sued, but I don’t think that showing up to work drunk should be a criminal offense.

    1. AlmightyJB

      Public intoxication.

      1. The maximum pentalty for public intoxication should be time in the drunk tank to sober up if you’re not coherent enough to be dropped in the back of a taxi.

        1. The maximum penalty for public intoxication should be for a cop to wave at you as he drives by, unless you’re violating someone else’s rights.

          1. Just because you live someplace that gets a winter once a decade…

        2. Cost my a night in the pokey and 105$

      2. Hyperion

        But if he was in a private organization at the time, would that count as in public?

        1. Lachowsky

          exactly
          Is a hospital the public? I think not. Also Public intoxication is a bullshit nanny state charge. I should be able to walk my drunk ass all around public as long as I don’t do do anything that harms someone else.

          1. AlmightyJB

            I got picked up for public intoxication walking home from a bar two blocks from my house. Would have never had been stopped if I drove.

          2. Hyperion

            Yeah, I’m sure I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been drunk in public. Like walking home from a bar. I don’t know if I’ve ever known anyone who was arrested for public intoxication, unless as you said, they were causing some sort of disturbance.

          3. I’ve been arrested for public intoxication twice. Once was senior week at Myrtle Beach where a cop picked me up in a golf cart walking down the sidewalk at 3 am in nothing but a pair of shorts staggering drunk. But I had no ID, so they never got it on my record because I refused to give my real name and they had to release me when I was sober in the morning.
            The other was when someone I was riding in a car with was drunk and we hit a curb with a rental car and the cops came upon us an hour later as we were trying to put the wheel back together he had all but destroyed. They arrested all of us (5 total) because we each refused to say who was driving. They didn’t even do FSTs or give breathalyzers, so we all went to court together and they dropped the charge for lack of evidence.
            That second one was great fun. We knew one of the deputies at the Henrico station and he fucked with us all night long by throwing oranges at us in the cell. Then we went bowling as we walked back homeward the next day at the ghetto lanes at Broad and Parham and got drunk again at Breakers before making it all the way home wearing jailhouse flip flops I managed to keep for several years.

          4. PBRstreetgang

            OMG you suburban West Enders with your “ghetto lanes” at Broad and Parham.
            Walnut Hill Lanes, South Crater Rd in Petersburg. THAT’s ghetto lanes.

          5. Lachowsky

            I was removed from a vehicle that I was a passenger in and taken to jail for public intox about 10 years ago. I spent 8 hours in the slammer and was given a 180 dollar fine. I spent a lot more than that getting the charge thrown out in court.

          6. Hyperion

            Was the driver drunk? Because if not, what about the millions of people riding drunk in Uber every day? I thought that was what designated driver was all about? How are you supposed to get home after legally getting drunk in a bar? Teleport?

          7. Lachowsky

            The driver was arrested on suspicion of DUI after refusing the field sobriety test. After getting to the station and blowing into the “official” machine, he was released because he wasn’t drunk. I got to stay the night in the pokey.

          8. I think Public Intoxication is one of those “public morals” type charges that originated back when you’d be thrown in stocks for using crass language around ladies. Now it seems to be one of the millions of laws on the books that give cops a good excuse to stop someone who isn’t obviously doing anything wrong.

          9. ” I don’t do do anything that harms someone else.”

            I get that, but there are idiots who will fall down, hit their head, and then sue the city for improper something or other.

      3. SugarFree

        Bring back drunk and disorderly. Just being drunk in public is a bullshit charge for a non-crime.

  5. Lachowsky

    http://imgur.com/Ge5Bgqi

    Note the #4 in the top right corner. I don’t think it’s been this cold here in 15 years.

    1. 4F? That’s not that bad.

      What’s the wind chill?

      1. Lachowsky

        Depends on where in the plant I am. By the furnaces ist about +40. Down at product finishing it’s probably -10. At the oxygen generation plant maybe -15. It kinda varies around here.

        1. spqr2008

          How badly does the weather screw up the tolerances on your equipment? That kind of Delta T has to be bad for pouring and casting.

          1. Lachowsky

            I’d have to talk to the production guys, but I don’t think it affects the process much. Our equipment at the points where the steel contacts it stay pretty much the same temperature no matter what the ambient temperature is around it. The reason for this is all the cooling systems we utilize to keep the steel from damaging the equipment.

            The molds we use in casting are optimally kept at about 300 degrees. When the temperature of the mold deviates from that setpoint, valves open or close to adjust the volume of cooling water flowing through ports in the mold. Since we are pouring 3000 degree steel in the mold, there is no way that the ambient temp can get so low that the mold temp can’t be controlled by the flow of water through it.

    2. PieInTheSKy

      7 C round here. Not much winter this year

      1. Look, your degrees are 9/5ths of real degrees, and you lop off thirty two real degrees to appear colder.

        lets see… 63 / 5 + 32… 45F, downright balmy.

    3. AlmightyJB

      9 here. Wind chill of 2. Supposed to start warming up though. Up to freezing by Saturday. My front tires are almost bald and our subdivision hasn’t been plowed ever so I’m probably stuck here until Saturday when I can hopefully go get my new tires. Just gonna work from home in the meantime.

    4. DEG

      28 F here and snowing. I hate snow, but I’ll take these conditions over the single digit highs and negative lows we had not too long ago.

      1. You in the mid-Atlantic? We’ve got light snow and we’re hovering in the high 20s low 30s, but we had temps in the low teens for awhile. It hasn’t been that cold for that long around here for a while.

        1. DEG

          New Hampshire.

          1. DEG

            Though I grew up in the Philly area.

  6. The #MeToo movement is not a witch hunt, and it’s definitely not over

    In one particular example, Fox News writer Karol Markowicz mused that the sexual encounter described in Ansari’s accuser’s story was “downright unpleasant,” but questioned whether or not it “counts” as assault because “at no point does she make a move to leave despite her discomfort.” Markowicz remarks that because of this victim’s “participation” in sexual acts with Ansari, that his story is somehow different than the Weinsteins, the Spaceys, and the Lauers, which are all situations that Markowicz feels “fit” the checklist of what counts as sexual assault. She also feels that “the Ansari case could well mark the unofficial end of the #MeToo movement.”

    Sexual abuse is an epidemic in our culture, and it can only go away when we understand the myriad ways in which abuse can exist. It’s not fair to say that only rape and egregious physical coercion is a form of sexual violence — we also need to acknowledge that ignoring a person’s cues (verbal and non-verbal) and pursuing them sexually does fundamentally ignore some of the core values of consent that we have to fight to uphold. Being unaware of someone during a sexual encounter means that encounter is not nearly as consensual as it needs to be.

    1. PieInTheSKy

      Sexual abuse is an epidemic in our culture – wow you can catch sexual abuse in the US? Amazing

      only rape and egregious physical coercion is a form of sexual violence – probably not but neither it is to say that anything I feel like is a form of sexual violence. And also other forms of sexual violence should not be conflated with rape or presented in the same statistics like many do

      Being unaware of someone during a sexual encounter means that encounter is not nearly as consensual as it needs to be. – huh?

      1. Lachowsky

        “Being unaware of someone during a sexual encounter”

        Its kinda hard to not be aware of the other person when engaged in sexual activity.

        1. Have you met my wife? /Rodney Dangerfield

        2. “It’s not strictly necessary”

          /Cosby

      2. Hyperion

        “wow you can catch sexual abuse in the US? Amazing”

        Of course, it spreads through toxic masculinity. That’s why men have to be taught not to rape, duh!

      3. SugarFree

        Being unaware of someone during a sexual encounter means that encounter is not nearly as consensual as it needs to be.

        The end result of the affirmative consent idea: they want it to be a crime to not be able to read her mind.

        1. Hyperion

          We need thought crime, it’s a jobs program!

    2. “Fuck you, learn to say no and take ownership of your own body.”

      -every intelligent human being that’s weighed in on this fiasco

      1. trshmnstr

        This. If your fear of disappointing your nightly sexual conquest is greater than your fear of doing what comes next, the responsibility falls on you for what comes next.

        1. Tres Cool

          Damnit Trashy!
          Now everytime I see your avatar I just hear “rawwrrawwrrawwwr” from that stupid B&T bit.
          And I thought I’d have control over the monster….

      2. AlmightyJB

        I just wish they would be honest about it. Lots of women say no when they don’t mean no. What they mean is, yes we’re going to have sex but I don’t want you to think I’m a slut. If they really mean no, they would get up and say if you can’t control your hands were done. I’ve stopped when women have said no more than once and said to them I’ll stop if you really want me to but I don’t think you want me to. They always wanted me to keep going. Of course that was 30 years ago before I was married.

        1. I just hope Sean Connery is somewhere safely in hiding, because they’re gunnin’ for his ass.

    3. “Sexual abuse is an epidemic in our culture”

      Citation needed.

      “that encounter is not nearly as consensual as it needs to be”

      Consent is a Boolean state and not subject to gradation.

      Defining missing (or even “ignoring”) verbal and non-verbal cues as “violence” will ensure #metoo continues as a witch-hunt and will undermine your credibility.

    4. related: Stop Feministsplaining Sex to Men

      In the aftermath, Grace felt used. So she texted Ansari, explaining to him that she felt terrible about the date. “I want to make sure you’re aware so maybe the next girl doesn’t have to cry on the ride home,” she said.
      CARTOONS | Steve Breen
      View Cartoon

      This is feministsplaining sex. Here’s the problem: The condescension isn’t earned. From Grace’s story, it seems she was less than clear in her nonverbal communications but she wanted Ansari to read her mind — and that when he didn’t, she therefore had leeway to lecture him about his sins and, more broadly, those of all men.

    5. Lachowsky

      “we also need to acknowledge that ignoring a person’s cues (verbal and non-verbal) and pursuing them sexually does fundamentally ignore some of the core values of consent”

      Men need to learn to read women’s minds.

      Also, admitting that women won’t tell men what they really mean is really owning up to your stereotype. Way to go girl.

      1. commodious spittoon

        No kidding. The only way this would be more hackneyed is if Anzari had noticed.

        “Hey, what’s wrong?”

        “Nothing.”

        “…”

        “It’s fine. Do whatever you want.”

        1. Lachowsky

          “What are you mad about honey?”

          “Nothing.”

          “Okay.”

          /Leaves room with full knowledge that there will be an arguement within the next 24-48 hours about whatever she is mad about.

          1. commodious spittoon

            A day later, “I just think it’s odd that…”

          2. A Leap at the Wheel

            Yesterday I said to my wife “I asked you how your day was. You made two factual claims about things that happened around you. I repeated my question and specified that I am asking what your emotional state is. You said it is ‘fine.’ I am going to operate as though you are fine, even though you known and I know that you are not ‘fine.’ ”

            It may surprise you, but my wife and I had an argument last night about how terrible I am.

          3. trshmnstr

            I try to head that stuff off before it starts to ferment.

            “is there anything I can do to help you out?”
            “yeah, the dishwasher has been waiting to be done for three days and you just walk by like it isn’t even there”

            *STEVE SMITH’S the dishwashing orphan and sends her to bed without gruel*
            *smiles with the satisfaction that there won’t be marital strife later that day*

      2. R C Dean

        ignoring a person’s cues (verbal and non-verbal)

        Did I miss the part where she said, out loud, “Keep your dick to yourself”?

    6. Sexual abuse is an epidemic in our culture,

      ::checks bio to see if writer lives in middle eastern shithole::
      ::sees that writer lives in USA::
      ::ignores rest of the writer’s piece::

    7. It’s not a witch-hunt, it’s a pogrom. This is how radical Marxist political movements have seized control and eliminated dissent in every instance. They establish rules of conduct that people can agree with–“Rape is bad”–then they expand the definition without minimizing the impact–“Making someone feel uncomfortable is as bad as rape”–then they push the narrative that a person can be guilty of something without even knowing they’ve done anything wrong—“You can commit sexual assault by not reading subtle nonverbal cues which contradict all of the other more obvious cues”–eventually landing on being guilty by virtue of your identity–“Toxic masculinity is inherent to the male identity and can only be fought by men subverting themselves to the judgement of woke women.”

      It’s as if these people read up on the Cultural Revolution and said, “Hey, let’s do exactly this.”

  7. Lol, I’ve been up for 90 minutes and I thought it would be nice to let my wife do the links since her work is shut down and she doesn’t get to participate here as much as she’d like. But that gets twisted into me being a shiftless layabout while I make her perform acts she regrets even though she said she would do them.

    This is the same thing that’s happening with the #metoo insanity. Women agreeing to do things they aren’t too excited about or not simply saying no and walking away.

    I feel like the men in these stories. They’re tht victims here, as am I. As am I.

    1. MikeS

      And we’re to believe the ravings a shiftless ne’r-do-well like you?!

    2. Banjos

      Lighten up, Francis.

    3. The Elite Elite

      Sloopy admits to raping his wife! Quick, spread his name all over social media!

      1. My social media presense is limited to posting pictures of miniatures, stories, and shilling books.

        I don’t want to introduce prurient content.

      2. Grumbletarian

        I demand that he be fired from Glibertarians!! INTO THE SUN!!

        1. *Pushes Sloopy into a SPARC v890*

          What?

    4. Slammer

      Go fix her a sammich

      1. I’ll make breakfast if she wants. Just like I make dinner every night. And breakfast when it gets cooked.

        1. Banjos

          To be fair, I’m a terrible cook. You cooking is out of necessity.

          1. WTF

            Hah, I do the cooking in my house, too. My wife actually wants to cook, but I usually don’t let her because I’m a lot better at it.

          2. RBS

            Same here. When my wife walks into the kitchen certain things are guaranteed to occur:

            1-Using the wrong utensils, like using a fork to stir things in a non-stick pan.
            2-Using multiple utensils for the same task. like using a spoon to stir something, then using another spoon to stir the same thing. Repeatedly.
            3-Lack of tidiness, I know cooking can be messy, but there is no need for the kitchen to look like a bomb went off when all you have done is scramble some eggs.
            4-Lack of seasoning. She loves salt yet refuses to cook with it.

          3. All of these things happen in my house, except replace #4 with:

            4a. – There’s apparently no such thing as too much garlic powder, and
            4b. – Oil is a useless substance that has no taste and makes you obese, so never use it. Simply spray a spritz of Pam on a pan (nonstick optional) and lay a chicken breast on it. On high, because who’s got that kind of time? Come back in ten minutes to see if it’s reached the optimal internal temperature of 325 degrees.

          4. Rufus the Monocled

            You sound exactly like my wife.

          5. AlexinCT

            Sounds like my ex, but she was unable to admit she sucked at it.

          6. Ho-lee shit.

            I thought I made every meal that gets cooked because I excel at it, not because you suck at it.

            Good tasting food isn’t a necessity. It’s a luxury. A luxury a few people could go without for a while in order to give them perspective on gratitude and good fortune.

          7. spqr2008

            You sound like my dad used to. My mom is a good cook, at certain things, but she was also the primary breadwinner in our household for most of my childhood. Therefore, my dad would cook (he’s also a good cook, but at different things), and he’d make us eat things my brother and I did not like at the time, but now do. And oh, the complaining….

          8. Rufus the Monocled

            Sloppy’s secret sauce.

            And extra MSG.

            He puts that shit on everything.

          9. Gustave Lytton

            Sloopy Joes?

    5. But did she consent enthusiastically?

  8. PieInTheSKy

    Daily Leafy Greens May Slow Cognitive Decline

    https://www.rush.edu/news/press-releases/daily-leafy-greens-may-slow-cognitive-decline

    The study enlisted volunteers already participating in the ongoing Rush Memory and Aging Project, which began in 1997 among residents of Chicago-area retirement communities and senior public housing complexes. A “food frequency questionnaire” was added from 2004 to February 2013, which 1,068 participants completed. Of them, 960 also received at least two cognitive assessments for the analyses of cognitive change.

    Well yes this seems totally reliable as a study

    1. Hyperion

      Here’s the key statement in that article:

      “More research needed ”

      Translated: NEEDZ MOAR FUNDING!

      More funding is always needed, we can never be sure, all we know is that we’re going to get different results next time and that will of course mean that more funding is needed.

    2. Lachowsky

      Anecdotal and says nothing about the validity of the study. My grandfather died at age 95 with his mind still functioning. He also grew and ate a lot of turnip greens. Greens cooked with a ham bone were a weekly meal at his place.

      1. spqr2008

        Anecdotal as well, but my grandfather and his last wife ate a ton of greens, and the current wife grows a wonderful garden (best greens I’ve ever had in my life), and even though he’s starting to mentally decline (at 86, I’m not shocked), he’s still pretty sharp.

      2. Rufus the Monocled

        My wife’s grandmother (whose mother came from Rhode Island) died at 103 – the PM even sent her a Happy 100th card – and she was hardly into vegetables. She had all her mental faculties – and then some – in tact right to the end.

        Quite the feisty one. I once asked her ‘Hey, did you go watch Buster Keaton movies? And she responded, ‘who had time for that shit?”

        Hooo-kay.

        1. commodious spittoon

          Grandmother is pretty meat-and-potatoes about her diet, literally. Dad spends every weekend with her and invariably she serves chuck roast and onion, carrots, and potatoes. Some horseradish, maybe a cheese plate and crackers. But I have never seen her prepare or order a salad. She’s pushing 95 and still sharp.

  9. There was a small by-electon for a state senate seat in Wisconsin. Dem won. Media acted as if it were a referendum repudating the president.

    Not ever election is a referendum on the president. In fact, only one every four years is an actual referendum on the president. The more local the election gets, the less the opinion of the president is going to play in how people vote.

    1. AlexinCT

      Stop harshing the narrative man..

  10. straffinrun

    “CAN you count backwards in sevens, draw a clock that reads 10 past 11 or memorise a list of five words?”

    Grab. Them. By. The. Pussy.

    1. Brett L

      draw a clock that reads 10 past 11 |11:10|

      1. CAN you count backwards in sevens,

        -7, -14, -21, -28, -35…

        1. AlexinCT

          No zero?

    2. CAN you count backwards in sevens,

      Why? Is there some actual use for that?

      draw a clock that reads 10 past 11

      Water, Spring-wound, Digital, or Sundial?

      or memorise a list of five words?

      Are we talking monosyllables or massively polysyllabic? Both “A” and “Antidisestablismentarianism” are “words”. How long do I need to remember them for? Does order matter? Are they related or unrelated?

      1. straffinrun

        Your test questions are too long? *Chooses B for last ten*

        1. I misspelled Antidisestablishmentarianism. Dammit.

          1. Tres Cool

            To be fair, you got “toque” correct on the 1st try yesterday.

      2. SugarFree

        All I’m getting from this is that you can’t do any of these things.

        1. They asked very vague questions, I’m trying to get exact acceptance criteria.

    3. RAHeinlein

      Song of Bernadette – “Would you know the answer if you haven’t figured it out before?”

  11. The Elite Elite

    Are you guys ready for the hardest hit piece of journalism since Two Scoops of Ice Cream? I give you Donald Trump holds umbrella over himself as he, wife and child board Air Force One. Glad we have the media there to let us know all the important details. IMPEACH NOW!

    1. Tundra

      Sad!

    2. Hyperion

      Well, that must be an impeachable offense since everything else is.

    3. PBRstreetgang

      If he is actually holding it solely over himself and not his wife and kid, that would be pretty dickish.

      1. RAHeinlein

        That’s Fake News. The article states “Came as he was assailed by questions over three scandals engulfing White House.”

        Obama’s White House was scandal-free.

  12. Tundra

    I have been rear-ended twice in a span of less than two months.

    Sloopy still bringing the magic!

    Here’s a song my daughters insists on listening to every time we get into a car.

    Thank you so much for the brain worm. My office mates will be so pleased.

  13. Trump’s Debt to Ron Paul’s Paranoid Style

    Long before Donald Trump emerged as the most prominent purveyor of a racist conspiracy theory concerning the country’s first black president, played political footsie with white supremacists, condemned “globalism,” sold himself to the masses as a guru of personal enrichment, attacked American allies as scroungers, and made overtures to authoritarian regimes like Russia, there was Ron Paul. The ideological similarities between the two men, and the ways in which they created support, are striking.

    Decades before right-wing chain emails—never mind Twitter—fringe political figures and movements used a more prosaic tool for gaining adherents: direct-mail newsletters. Subscribers to Paul’s various publications (which appeared under titles such as the Ron Paul Political Report, the Ron Paul Survival Report, and the Ron Paul Investment Letter) could learn how “order was only restored in L.A. when it came time for the blacks to pick up their welfare checks three days after rioting began,” how AIDS was spread through the US Postal Service, and read favorable coverage of unsavory personalities like the Cincinnati Reds owner Marge Schott and the white supremacist Jared Taylor (described innocuously as a “criminologist”).

    Paul’s strategy was to appeal to voters on three bases—racial animus, anti-elitism, and nativism.

    1. Slammer

      It’s ok when our side peddles paranoia for political gain, though.

      1. A Fuggin White Male

        “They’ll put y’all back in chains”
        – Joe Biden

    2. Bob Boberson

      So is James Kirchick the pen named used by Michael Hihn or Ken Schultz?
      /Just teasing Ken…sorta

  14. PieInTheSKy

    YouTube star wins damages in landmark UK ‘revenge porn’ case

    Chrissy Chambers brought civil case after ex-boyfriend posted videos of them having sex online

    https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2018/jan/17/youtube-star-chrissy-chambers-wins-damages-in-landmark-uk-revenge-porn-case

    1. Count Potato

      “Before she came out as gay, Chambers had a nine-month relationship with a British man when she was 18. On Wednesday, the high court heard that towards the end of their relationship he filmed seven videos of them having sex without her knowledge or informed consent.

      Two years after they broke up, and once Chambers had begun her relationship with Kam, he uploaded them to a free porn site. The videos have since been shared on more than 35 different porn sites and seen hundreds of thousands of times.”

      Did he hide a bunch of cameras, then edit together later? Otherwise, I find it hard to believe he was able to make seven videos worth watching, without her knowing.

  15. MikeS

    NERD ALERT!

    Largest prime number ever found has over 23 million digits

    The discovery was initially made on 26th December by a computer volunteered by Jonathan Pace, as part of the Great Internet Mersenne Prime Search (GIMPS). Pace, a 51-year old electrical engineer based in Germantown, Tennessee, has been hunting primes for over fourteen years and his belated Christmas present is eligible for a $3,000 reward from GIMPS.

    The new prime number, known as M77232917, is one million digits larger than the previous record. It is also a particularly rare type of prime called a Mersenne prime, meaning that it is one less than a power of two.

    1. When are we going to make use of these rare primes? They seem like mere collectors’ items right now.

      1. Large primes are of use in cryptography, aren’t they?

    2. Slammer

      Gotta catch ’em all!

      1. Gotta count ’em all!

    3. Tonio

      It’s so prime that even its catalog number is a prime.

  16. In case any of you are into vintage matchbox collectibles, tootsietoy cars and the like:
    We have about a third of this sale online so far.
    We’ve probably got another 150 tootsietoy and midgetoy pieces to enter, and we will rephotogeaph all of them. (We rushed to get the first ones up and didn’t have a decent photo setup in place until later.) and we’ve got a bunch of vintage pocketknives and antique straight razors to put in. But anyway, in case any of you are interested…bid away.

    1. Tundra

      Vintage & Collectible Toys, Knives & Razors

      Oh, hell yes!

    2. trshmnstr

      Lemme know when the shaving equipment goes up. I don’t have any straights in my collection yet.

      1. They should be up by the end of today. In fact, I should have most of it up by the end of today.

        I thought about selling more large items in this one (pedal cars, signs, etc) but decided I’d do that in the live/simulcast event that’s next on my calendar there if you back up to the company page. I have a ton of inventory to add to that sale but haven’t gotten to most of it yet, although I expect to get a lot of that data entry done today too. There’s some really cool shit there like a restored Seeburg 147 jukebox and a coke machine from the 50s that’s just perfect. Vintage gas pumps, a shitload of signs, and some cool antique furniture. But that sale isn’t for a couple more weeks, so I need to get this one entered first.

        1. RAHeinlein

          Nice 1955 Chevy. My son has been looking for a project truck – I’ll pass along.

          1. Sorry for the sideways picture. That’s on my list of things to clean up.

    3. Tonio

      Invest in, or construct, a lightbox. They’re about $45 online for a 24″ model. These are designed to make the photographing of objects easy while yielding good results.

    4. CampingInYourPark

      I’m a side gig auctioneer as well. I don’t have cool stuff like you though, and I don’t ship:
      http://www.henykat.com/catalog/121395/local-consignments–furniture-and-more/

    5. I have some of those cars — but in better shape.

  17. Our Solar System is the Weird One Says Recent Study on Alien Worlds

    Planetary systems outside our own tend to follow a similar pattern. The planets are usually around the same size and each one spaced at regular intervals. That’s according to a study looking at 909 planets across 355 stars.

    “The planets in a system tend to be the same size and regularly spaced, like peas in a pod. These patterns would not occur if the planet sizes or spacings were drawn at random,” says Lauren Weiss, an astrophysicist from the University of Montreal who led the international research team responsible for the study.

    That stands in stark contrast to our own solar system. The innermost planets come in a wide range of sizes with large spacing between each.

    1. PieInTheSKy

      909 planets across 355 stars. – definitely a representative sample … I mean it is very likely that our solar system is weird but I think in the grand scheme of the galaxy not that weird and there are plenty other with heir quirks.

      1. Likely our Solar System is weird?!

        Have you seen who is living in it??!!!!

        1. Wait, has someone moved in on Mars?

          1. Tres Cool

            I heard once that “Mars ain’t the kind of place to raise your kids”.
            In fact, its cold as hell. Well, and there’s no one there to raise them. If you did.”

          2. Watch out for thoats.

    2. robc

      When you are creating the universe in 6 days, you have to repeat some patterns.

    3. AlexinCT

      The fact that they are now thinking most star formation happens as binaries (or possibly even trinities), and somehow these stars end up breaking apart to end up singularly, like most of what we see out there, would completely rewrite the way we have been thinking about systems.

  18. PieInTheSKy

    Andrej Babiš’s Czech government to resign after losing confidence vote

    Billionaire PM’s brief leadership has been dogged by allegations that he abused EU subsidy scheme

    https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jan/17/andrej-babis-czech-government-to-resign-after-losing-confidence-vote

    The Czech parliament will decide whether to lift Babiš’s immunity on Friday.

    We have the same thing in Romania. Members of parliament accused on any crime have immunity until parliament votes to remove it. They often vote against.

    1. Gustave Lytton

      Incentives, how the fuck do they work?

  19. Your morning dose of pectorally gifted ladies.

    http://archive.is/aSkGl

    13, 15, 25 (in spite of no face), 29, 35 (for the cultural appropriation), 37 wins.

    1. DEG

      I might have to exclude #7 from the orgy based on whom she voted for.

      1. MikeS

        Everything is political in the age of Trump.

        1. DEG

          I live in the Boston area. Dating Progressive twits isn’t that hard. Hell, even some of the New Hampshire natives I’ve dated have Progressive leanings.

  20. Tundra

    Forgotten Words That Need To Come Back

    ‘Slugabed’ ring any bells, Sloop?

    1. Who assembled this list? Most of these are “Good riddance” the others – never went away.

    2. Slammer

      Do they still say donnybrook in hockey?

      1. Tundra

        I haven’t heard it for years, but I’ll start paying attention. Great word.

        1. Tres Cool

          I’m not sure how I found it, but Im a closet “Letterkenny” addict. I seasons 1-4.

          1. Tres Cool

            *I have

          2. MikeS

            It really is very funny.

        2. Rufus the Monocled

          I don’t get the fascination with Letterkenny.

          1. Tres Cool

            Honestly, out of the handful of canuckistani friends I have, they seem to have never heard of it. Don’t you people advertise up there?

          2. Rufus the Monocled

            We’re ‘too cool’ for advertising. That’s an American thing.

            It’s also on CraveTV who most people never heard of.

            Plus they’re too busy looking at Trump.

    3. I’m sorry, I dozed off. Whatbwere you asking again?

  21. Democracy has a future, if we rethink and remake it

    But we can’t conflate all challenges to representative democracy as being the same. We can distinguish between those social forces that draw inspiration from the radical right – such as ethnonationalism, neo-fascism, militarism – and those that can be seen as a novel continuation of the libertarian socialist tradition – Occupy, Black Lives Matter, Rojava.

    The radical right is intolerant, aggressive and wants to capture the state for authoritarian ends and to nationalise capitalism.

    By contrast, the libertarian socialist tradition is an attempt to extend democracy into areas like the economy (for example the citizen’s wage, universal income, worker control of industry). Libertarian socialists also attempt to reconfigure centralised state power and restore decision-making to communities.

    Both movements are responding to the same conditions: the polarising impact of capitalism on social life (inequality, insecurity, poverty) and the failure of representative democracy to offer solutions to these problems.

    1. Raston Bot

      tl;dr: “words have no meaning”

      1. Raston Bot

        that SUNY Buffalo response wasn’t bad. i have not read Death to Tyrants so no guarantees on his overall work.

      2. Raston Bot

        Democracy is the only self-correcting system. Democracies have recessions, depressions and fumbling responses to crises. They do not have famines.

        The defence against tyranny key: civil society is the bulwark against arbitrary and total power. Only democracy cultivates freedom of association and its product: the groups, associations, networks and political parties that fuel unendingly contested democratic politics and that make trouble.

        the two Americans had good responses.

    2. WTF

      The radical right is intolerant, aggressive and wants to capture the state for authoritarian ends and to nationalise capitalism.

      It’s all projection with the left.

    3. Lachowsky

      libertarian socialist-

      No suck fucking thing. Those two words have opposite meanings.

      That’s like saying someone is a slut virgin.

      1. Private Chipperbot

        “I’m a virgin, I’m just not very good at it.”

    4. trshmnstr

      Libertarian socialists also attempt to reconfigure centralised state power and restore decision-making to communities.

      Hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahhahahahahaahahaahahahahah

      *sucks wind*

      Aaaaaaaaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahabahahahhahahahahahahahahahahah

    5. Rufus the Monocled

      “Consider Brexit, the election of US President Donald Trump, Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdoğan’s referendum, Philippines President Rodrigo Duterte’s policy of state-sanctioned murder and Hungary’s drift towards a new authoritarianism.”

      There’s a gaping hole in their opening.

      Basically, what this navel-gazing tripe amounts to is: When we don’t get our way, democracy is dead and ZOMG!

      Naturally, democracy started being attacked under Trump. Retarded thinking this is.

      As for Libertarian socialist. Words matter they always tell us. We should be very aggressive in ensuring they don’t expropriate ‘libertarian’ because, to us, progressives rely on coercion and group think which is the OPPOSITE of libertarian principles. Or else….we end up with the silliness of Nazis/Fascists being (wrongly) labeled ‘right-wing’ which is a sort of euphemism/metaphor (whatever) for conservative in today’s context.

      1. Grumbletarian

        When we don’t get our way, democracy is dead and ZOMG!

        Yep. See: multiple gay marriage votes in CA, Scott Walker’s recall election, Bush 2000, Trump 2016, etc…

    6. Stinky Wizzleteats

      “Libertarian socialist”: Sorry but no…

      1. straffinrun

        If he follows that phrase with “Impaler”, I’ll accept it.

        1. Tres Cool

          I read that as “impala”, and pictured a new line from Chevy.

          1. *keeps failing to create workable “Vlad the Impala” joke*

          2. Because he was driven to vampirism?

          3. Tres Cool

            I’m picturing one of those crappy 70s russian cars that seemed to litter every Bond film of the time.
            Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you the stylish, Invalidka!

            http://www.autoviva.com/img/photos/880/smz_invalidka_img_7880.jpg

          4. That thing looks light enough to pick up and carry.

            Oh that’s right, In Soviet Russia, car rides you.

          5. Slammer

            This car sucks great!

    7. PieInTheSKy

      This is kinda old but …

      The Fallacy of ‘Libertarian Socialism’
      Perry de Havilland

      http://www.libertarian.co.uk/lapubs/polin/polin186.htm

      The text this responds to was even worse

      “Underlying libertarian socialism is a different and distinct notion of politics which rests on the belief that it is only through interaction with others in political activity and civic action that individuals will fully realise their humanity. Democracy should therefore extend not simply to government but throughout society: in industry, in the neighbourhood or in any arrangement by which people organise their lives”

    8. PBRstreetgang

      How do “libertarian socialists” distribute, enforce and control that universal income, worker control of industry, citizen wages, etc?

    9. SugarFree

      “libertarian socialist”

      It’s a Chomsky hobby-horse. Why would a linguist think words mean anything?

      1. Microaggressor

        It’s literally just a euphemism for communism.
        It’s like deep down they know if they use that dirty word nobody will take them seriously. But they keep pushing the exact same ideas. Famine soon, comrades!

  22. Private Chipperbot

    Meteoroid over Michigan, which would make for a decent band name.

    My son and I were driving to my hockey game last night and saw the flash from it striking near us. Skylight lit bluish white and a big boom. We thought if was snow thunder until my wife texted us. It lit up the whole sky.

  23. MikeS

    Some possible excellent news in medical research. (It’s a short article, so I’ll copy-pasta the whole thing)

    A new antibacterial ointment could help take down drug-resistant bacteria.

    In human skin samples and mice, the medicine completely cleared wounds of MRSA, the strain of Staphylococcus aureus that is resistant to methicillin and other antibiotics, and antibiotic-resistant Acinetobacter baumannii. Both microbes are known to cause serious infections in hospital patients. Researchers in the Netherlands created the gel’s key ingredient, a chain of amino acids called SAAP-148, by improving on a bacteria-fighting peptide found in humans.

    The synthetic peptide prevents pathogens from forming biofilms — colonies of microbes enveloped in a protective slime that shields them from antibiotics, the researchers report online January 10 in Science Translational Medicine. Bacteria living in a biofilm can be 10 to 1,000 times as hard to kill as their free-floating counterparts. SAAP-148 also wiped out microbes that hunker down in a dormant, drug-tolerant state during an antibiotic assault, then lead the bacterial resurgence after treatment ends.

    “This peptide could provide a much-needed boost to our arsenal of antibiotics,” says David Weiss, a microbiologist at Emory University School of Medicine in Atlanta, who wasn’t involved in the work.

    Unlike S. aureus and A. baumannii bacteria exposed to conventional antibiotics in the study, the microbes didn’t develop strong resistance to SAAP-148 after at least a couple weeks’ exposure to the compound. These results are “quite promising,” says Weiss, who would like to see the peptide tested against other bacteria as well. Studies of the gel in humans will begin this year.

    1. Hyperion

      ” Studies of the gel in humans will begin this year.”

      Assuming this is taking place in Murika, it could be available to consumers as soon as 20 years from now!

      1. MikeS

        And because of that, only cost $400/gram

      2. DEG

        You’re an optimist!

    2. Slammer

      Did they get consent from the bacteria?

  24. LJW

    <a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/brucelee/2018/01/15/hallucinations-after-taking-tamiflu-how-much-is-real-versus-not-real/#5286dc57307b"Hallucinations After Taking Tamiflu: How Much Is Real Versus Not Real?

    I sense a black market for Tamiflu might be growing

    1. LJW

      I’d ask for edit fairy but it works still so meh.

    2. Scruffy Nerfherder

      On the advice of a pediatric doctor, we gave our 1 year old Tamiflu one time. She promptly went into neurological seizures. We took her to the emergency room where the doctor on staff was freaked out that a pediatrician would prescribe that to a toddler.

      We promptly changed doctors.

      1. Lachowsky

        When my boy (5) had the flu a few weeks ago, his doctor prescribed him tamiflu. There were no ill effects.

  25. Sharon Stone’s Chilling Laughter To Her #MeToo Question Is All Women, Everywhere

    There is mirthful laughter, and then there is the chilling sound of been-there-seen-everything that came out of Sharon Stone’s mouth when asked if she had ever been in an “uncomfortable” situation. Read: a situation where she had been, at best, made to feel like a sex object, and at worst, harassed and abused with impunity. Sharon’s response: a great cackle of laughter. I bet every woman who was watching, or has since watched, that telling moment unfold, could relate to that nothing-about-this-is-funny chortle.

    Sharon Stone did not elaborate further on her experiences with sexual predators in the industry in her 40-year career. She didn’t need to; the laughter was enough, and has gone viral, resonating with woman all over.

    1. leonadasiv

      Because only men make women feel uncomfortable. It’s not like the same movement is also claiming that refusing to have sex with somebody (as long as she’s a female) because their trans or fat or unattractive to the guy, is akin to rape and the KKK.

    2. Pope Jimbo

      Are you sure you want to use Sharon Stone as a spokesperson for #MeToo?

      It seems that there are a lot of stories about her using her body to climb to the top of Hollywood.

      One of Stone’s former agents tells Eszterhas: “We used to have a saying among us at the agency: ‘Put Sharon in the room alone with the director and she’ll close the deal.’”

      After reading that story, my thought would be that the cackle was directed at the naif who thought that it was the directors who took advantage of her and not the other way around.

  26. Scruffy Nerfherder

    SJWednesday: Getting Treated Like Everyone Else Gets Treated Is Racism Edition

    But the fact that Serena Williams, who’d nearly died of a pulmonary embolism in 2001, who had just had a C-section which increases the risk of blood clots, and who is Serena goddamn Williams, who is rich and famous and is rich and famous specifically for the spectacular feats of her body, had to identify her symptoms herself and demand the screening needed for a potentially deadly complication is an incredible illustration of the deep sexism and racism that black women face in the medical system.

    And good luck pushing for extra tests to confirm a patient suspicion in a fully socialized health system like the NHS.

    1. trshmnstr

      It’s almost like doctors aren’t magicians

    2. Slammer

      The writer’s pissed because the docs can’t fix her crazy

    3. A Fuggin White Male

      Am I really to believe that Serena Williams doesn’t have a personal physician on-call 24/7 to cater do her just like every single mega-athlete?

      1. Scruffy Nerfherder

        She definitely has her anabolic dealer on speed dial.

    4. Stinky Wizzleteats

      It’s well known that all cases of misdiagnosis in our medical system are done to women of color, it just never happens to anyone else.

    5. Serena goddamn Williams, who is rich and famous and is rich and famous specifically for the spectacular feats of her body,

      Does this buffoon not realize how much of tennis is mental? She writes as if Serena is some Kong-like beast who doesn’t outthink her opponent’s but merely domintes them physically.

      I’m no Serena fan, but she is a very intelligent player.

      1. R C Dean

        What is the bizarre obsession that these proggies have with bodies, rather than people? Where does the “black bodies” thing come from? Why couldn’t this writer say “spectacular athletic feats”?

        Do they realize how dehumanizing and objectifying it is? Or are they just that tone deaf?

        1. Tonio

          I started hearing that a few years ago. I believe that it is meant to imply that in a racist society such as ours that black people (etc) are seen as mere bodies, not human beings. Yes, it is obnoxious and unhelpful but we’re seemingly stuck with it.

    6. The doctor should have threatened to shove a fucking ball down her fucking throat.

    7. My wife had to diagnose her own strep throat and she ain’t no tennis millionaire!

    1. Absent a civil war, it requires the assent of the current government of California.

    2. Grumbletarian

      Sadly, I’d say somewhere between ‘lol’ and ‘no’,

  27. Grumbletarian

    Trump receives perfect score on cognitive assessment test during his annual physical.

    He must have gotten help from the Russians!!

    1. Slammer

      Nice

    2. AlexinCT

      Anyone see the inquisition they put the doctor through hoping to get him to say something they could use to claim that this was all made up and Trump was still the evil genius/moronic retard the left wants to make him out to be?

      1. Slammer

        I liked the fat girl asking about his exercise equiptment

  28. Gustave Lytton

    I suppose this Ansari story is going to littrally kill the chances of a Parks & Rec revival.

    1. Negroni Please

      God I hope so. That show definitely had its moments but on the whole was pretty horrible. Especially as it neared the end and Poehler’s little hitler character started being treated as noble and valuable instead of a crazy and petty tyrant. My wife loved that show and at best I could merely tolerate it.

  29. PieInTheSKy
    1. SEA SMITH HOME INVADED BY PESKY DIVERS.

      1. WTF

        SOON SEA SMITH INVADE PESKY DIVERS!!!

        1. trshmnstr

          SEA SMITH FIND INTERESTING TUNNELS UNDER DIVERS SUITS

          1. WTF

            SEA SMITH LOVE “SPELUNKING” WITH DIVERS!!

          2. Slammer

            CAUGHT BETWEEN THE DEVIL AND THE DEEP BLUE SEA SMITH

      1. SOMETIMES SEA SMITH LIKE TO TUCK WEENIE INTO HIM BUTT TO PLAY EUNUCH

        1. WTF

          Cues up Goodbye Seahorses

      2. Slammer

        SEA SMITH is my fave new Glib meme

  30. The Late P Brooks

    those that can be seen as a novel continuation of the libertarian socialist tradition

    Or perhaps this can be seen as a bizarre mangling of words which formerly had meaning.

  31. Are you now or have you ever been a member of the Communist Party of the United States male cis-shitlord?

    A growing number of actors are renouncing Woody Allen

    The rising chorus suggests the road ahead for Allen may be particularly challenging, even for a director whose personal controversies have for decades made him an alternatively beloved and reviled figure in movies. Financial support for Allen has not previously waned in part because of the eagerness many stars have for working with a cinematic legend. But fielding a starry cast may prove increasingly difficult for Allen in a movie industry in the midst of a “Me Too” reckoning.

    “If I had known then what I know now, I would not have acted in the film,” Greta Gerwig, who co-starred in Allen’s 2012 comedy “To Rome With Love,” told The New York Times last week . “I have not worked for him again, and I will not work for him again. Dylan Farrow’s two different pieces made me realize that I increased another woman’s pain, and I was heartbroken by that realization.”

    Dylan Farrow, Allen’s adopted daughter, has said Allen molested her in an attic in 1992 when she was seven. Allen, who has long denied the allegations, was investigated for the incident but not charged.

    1. AlexinCT

      Someone give Woody a twinky.

    2. R C Dean

      Financial support for Allen has not previously waned

      Which is odd, because its been a long time since his movies made any money.

  32. The Late P Brooks

    Sharon Stone did not elaborate further on her experiences with sexual predators in the industry in her 40-year career. She didn’t need to; the laughter was enough, and has gone viral, resonating with woman all over.

    What if she laughed like that because she thought the question was so stupid it deserved no further response?

    1. Brett L

      I heard a story that Sharon was wiling to do what it took to secure a roll early on in her career. Whether she enjoyed that or not, she might get a kick out of what people are claiming as harassment.

      1. AlexinCT

        I think the point she was making was that everyone knew there was a price to pay to get ahead in Hollywood, and she probably finds all these people now acting out and pretending they didn’t know how business was done in that town to be speaking with a forked tongue.

    2. WTF

      What if she laughed like that because she thought “You do know I’m famous for gratuitously showing my cooch on the big screen?”

  33. Scruffy Nerfherder

    SJWednesday Word of the Day: Neurotypical Privilege

    Where are the positive schizophrenic role models? For our sake and for the sake of educating the neurotypicals.

    1. Grumbletarian

      I’m sure she is worried that the Democrats want to use the 25th to declare Trump mentally unfit for office just because he might be neurotypically underprivileged.

    2. WTF

      Where are the positive schizophrenic role models?

      Doesn’t that question kind of answer itself?

      1. Scruffy Nerfherder

        Shhhhhh….. the family of angels hiding in my attic will hear you. Gotta keep it quiet.

      2. Grumbletarian

        Maybe they all just want to be left alone.

    3. leonadasiv

      John Nash had a sad.

  34. Rufus the Monocled

    Jesse Jackson on Trump The Racist:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5lcART6TTE

    BUT PEOPLE CHANGE!

    /forehand slap!

    BUT HE WAS BEING DECEPTIVE! HE REALLY WAS RACIST ALL ALONG!

    /backhand slap!

    1. Gotta love Hymietown Jackson.

  35. PieInTheSKy

    Has strong become the respectable face of skinny for young women?

    A generation of Instagram stars and personal trainers are challenging old-fashioned notions of femininity, replacing images of thinness or fecundity with brute strength. Whether this is healthy is another matter

    https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jan/17/has-strong-become-respectable-face-skinny-for-young-women

    Arguably, that is no bad thing, given that the biggest threat to the average Briton’s health is failing to get off the sofa. Many of us need a gentle prod. But the risk of promoting any one shape as ideal is that those whose bodies do not conform naturally can easily be left feeling inadequate. “Thank God we’re getting rid of the stigma that women shouldn’t have muscles, that if a woman does she looks like a man. I’m so happy we’re breaking down those barriers,” says Madeley. “But why do we need to bash other people in order to get there?”

    While different body types exist and one shape is not necessarily ideal, there are plenty of shapes that are far from ideal and should be discouraged. And if people feel inadequet that is their problem… And I say this as someone not in any ideal shape.

    1. AlexinCT

      I did a lot of crazy shit in my younger years and have over 100 broken bones to show for it. As a result of that and just wear and tear, I can no longer run 5-10K a day, do the workouts I used to do, and no longer crank out 70 push ups in under a minute and do most of the extreme stuff like I used to. Further yet, when it is cold or wet, my joints usually hurt. My doctor tells me I need a knee and hip replacement, will someday have to do the repair back surgery I was told I would need if I was ever to walk again almost 30 years ago, and that the fact one of my broken ribs pushed one of my lungs into a smaller space and kind of left it partially functional eventually will catch up with me, but I figure I am gonna ride this train till the day I burn up in a blaze of glory. In my older age I have slowed down drastically, probably because the sleep disorder I ended up after a concision at the age of 13 left me unable to sleep for more than 3-4 hours a night, but I am still in decent shape and enjoying single life after 23 years of marriage. I am under no delusion that the damage I have done will not catch up to me eventually.

      I have dated several women that were into hard workouts, ranging from marathon runners to daily extreme workout sessions, and I have found most of them are doing this stuff because of some underlying reason they don’t even get. These tend to be people with extreme personalities and often obsessive compulsive behaviors, some of which tend not to be very healthy, that got there later in life for whatever reason. Most of them don’t realize that there will be a price to pay eventually. I would hazard that this behavior is still better than morbid obesity and living the couch potato life, but too much of anything can and will come with a hefty price.

      1. Are you Evil Knievel?

        1. AlexinCT

          Nah, just the idiot that thought if everyone else thought that was too dangerous or insane, I should try it. Got cured from this affliction when I finally almost lost my life in the military. Someday when the NDA is no longer binding, I might write a book. 🙂

  36. Scruffy Nerfherder

    SJWednesday: Lessons in Collectivization and Cognitive Dissonance Edition

    I can’t excerpt any one portion of the word salad that conveys the idiocy as well as the article in whole does, so here you go.

    Allegations Against Aziz Ansari are Forcing a Reckoning Around Intersectionality in the South Asian Community

    The confusion and concern about how to deal with the bad behavior of men, especially when those men are members of otherwise marginalized groups, is an old one. As an Indian American, I grew up hearing people discuss the misogyny of both Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. in hushed tones. I always found the quietness confusing. People whispered allegations of sexism like they were whispering the name Voldemort, a thing not to be named. However, as Professor Dumbledore taught us in Harry Potter, “fear of name increases fear of the thing itself”.

    But what were we afraid of? When our heroes are human, they are necessarily flawed. Furthermore, a person’s imperfect or even downright unjust behavior does not detract from their contributions to advancing our society. Interestingly, I noticed that those whispering about the misogyny of Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. were often Indian women and African American women respectively. It seemed that no one else knew or cared about the flawed humanity of our heroes.

    Fortunately, in my early 20s, I came across the work of Kimberlé Crenshaw and finally had a framework to understand my confusion — intersectionality. Professor Crenshaw explained that when narratives are shared that don’t fit within our existing frames, we don’t incorporate them into our understanding. She coined the term intersectionality to help provide a frame for multiple layers of marginalization — sexism coupled with racism, for example. Moya Bailey constructed the term misogynoir to describe misogyny directed towards Black women. As South Asians contend with allegations against Aziz Ansari, we are fortunate to have these frames to inform our understanding of the discomfort and challenges around these topics.

    Aziz Ansari is one of the few well-known South Asians in American popular culture. Ansari is, as the Atlantic magazine puts it, “the first exposure many young Americans had to a Muslim man who was aspirational, funny, immersed in the same culture that they are”. However, that is wholly irrelevant to the accusations against him. The author of the piece bemoans “the hit squad of privileged young white women to open fire on brown-skinned men”. The author, it should be noted, is a privileged 57-year-old white woman.

    Her defense of Ansari did not focus on the veracity of allegations made anonymously, the reputation of the outlet, or if/how we should differentiate between the behavior described and more violent behaviors. Rather, the defense focused on his value as a token representation of his culture. Nowhere in the defense of Ansari are Muslim-American women or Indian-American women considered. It definitely does not include Muslim-Americans or Indian-Americans who are LGBTQ+ or gender non-conforming.

    Of course, tokenism is another kind of racism. It fails to contend with the systems that have made Ansari one of the few recognizable South Asians in American households. It fails to question why the only well-known Indian American woman in Hollywood is Mindy Kaling. It does not explore how the best known Indian Americans in politics, including Nikki Haley and Bobby Jindal, are Republicans or how the Indian American culture may inform their attitudes towards women and their politics. It ignores the work of South Asian activists such as myself to educate our communities on racism and the importance of standing with other people of color against white supremacy.

    The defenses of Ansari that I have seen from within the South Asian community, in more casual settings, similarly fail to consider the experiences of South Asian women, and focus on the way these accusations stain the reputation of our culture as a whole. I believe it would be more productive to focus less on what White people may extrapolate from these accusations, and focus more on whether those extrapolations have merit. Asian American women, like women across racial groups, experience high rates of domestic and sexual violence. It would not be absurd to think Ansari represents a broader problem.

    With that said, there are challenges in understanding data regarding this specific racial group because the category used is Asian American Pacific Islander, which encompasses a huge range of cultures and experiences. The Obama administration created an initiative to disaggregate this data in order to ensure that groups that need help and support were not being overlooked. Still, Asian Americans broadly face unique challenges in holding perpetrators accountable because many of us are first or second generation immigrants who are less familiar with systems. Furthermore, we are part of tight-knit communities that reinforce patriarchal values and sexual taboos.

    Outside of South Asian scholars and activists, I have observed an alarming unwillingness to discuss the allegations against Ansari because they would involve discussing sex. In an extremely unscientific poll I conducted on Twitter only 6% of South Asians learned about sex through conversations with their parents. Only 2% of South Asians in this unscientific Twitter poll felt comfortable discussing their first time having sex with their parents. We cannot have conversations about how Ansari’s behavior was problematic when we don’t discuss healthy sexuality in our communities.

    I am not blaming South Asians, or the broader Asian American community, for Ansari’s behavior. Rather, I am suggesting that it is an opportunity for us to actively participate in the broader American conversation happening about sexual assault, sexual harassment and healthy sexuality through an intersectional lens that considers the experiences of South Asians who are not heterosexual cisgendered men.

    1. When our heroes are human, they are necessarily flawed. Furthermore, a person’s imperfect or even downright unjust behavior does not detract from their contributions to advancing our society.

      Hitler/Stalin/Pol Pot/Mao was just misunderstood.

      1. leonadasiv

        But Ron Paul is the worst person ever.

      2. Scruffy Nerfherder

        Taken in isolation, that sentence is actually true. However, the contributions of the heroes that the author speaks of are simply being famous celebrities and in possession of a particular skin color and/or genitalia.

      3. Hyperion

        No, you’re mixing it up again! Hitler was an extreme alt-right dude! They only called it the national socialist party to confuse people 80 years later!

        1. AlexinCT

          Heh, the fact these people pretend Nazi socialism is right wing so they can excuse the evils of communism, has always left me wondering if we as a species are not simply doomed from the start.

      4. PBRstreetgang

        No no no. Hitler and Stalin murdered millions of white women, so no problem there. Mao and Pol Pot murdered millions of women of color, BIG problem. See the difference?

    2. Rufus the Monocled

      We’re into, what I call the ‘4-motion’ or ‘All-track’ portion of inane mental masturbation for its own sake.

      Really. These ‘ideas’ go fucken nowhere.

      It’s just a shitty opinion.

      It’s pretty bad when a muppet who hasn’t had a haircut or changed his top in over 40 years notices.

    3. trshmnstr

      Historians are going to refer to this Era as the second Jim crow Era, aren’t they?

    4. Lachowsky

      Voldemort, a thing not to be named. However, as Professor Dumbledore taught us in Harry Potter, “fear of name increases fear of the thing itself”.

      Are those the only books these folk have read. Listen kids, Harry Potter is fantasy, not philosophy. There are better books from which one can shape their world view.

      1. I don’t think reading Melville during my teenage years did me any favors.

    5. Count Potato

      “People whispered allegations of sexism like they were whispering the name Voldemort, a thing not to be named. However, as Professor Dumbledore taught us in Harry Potter, “fear of name increases fear of the thing itself”.”

      ENOUGH ALREADY!!

  37. The Late P Brooks

    While different body types exist and one shape is not necessarily ideal, there are plenty of shapes that are far from ideal and should be discouraged.

    If your “shape” can be described accurately as an amorphous blob, you should probably do something different.

    1. leonadasiv

      I’m pretty sure this author is fat shaming. Needs reeducation.

  38. The Elite Elite

    So in about six hours from now I have to head in to work for my interview. I’m feeling more nervous about it now than I was before. Yesterday my manger informed me that this might actually be easier than previous interviews I’ve had specifically because it’ll be over the phone for a facility that’s about to open, instead of in person for an already preestablished one. So now I feel like if I don’t get inclined that I really will have screwed the pooch on this opportunity to move up. Of course, if I do get inclined and they offer me a position there, that’s got me nervous too. I just want it to be the afternoon already!

    1. I had three different phone interviews in the space of six days. It was nerve-wracking at first… but by the time the last one happened it was all old hat. So yeah, you’ll feel nervous for the first minute or so but after that no prob, Bob.

          1. Nephilium

            Damn SubGeniuses.

            I did meet Ivan Stang several years ago, last I knew, he was in Cleveland Heights now.

    2. You’ll be fine. Unless you’re a fraud in your day job, but I don’t think you are.

      1. The Elite Elite

        The problem is my having zero experience in leadership roles. Yet, they’re likely to ask me questions about times I showed leadership and I’m supposed to answer using the STAR method. That’s what killed me in my previous interviews. I’m going to have to BS some answers from this and my previous job to fit those questions.

        1. spqr2008

          You haven’t had to take initiative on any projects? Even something like bringing a solution to a boss shows initiative, especially if then you had to use teamwork to get it done.

          1. R C Dean

            You don’t need a title to be a leader. Think of a few times when you spoke up, took the initiative, whatever. If anything, showing leadership when you don’t have the rank is more impressive.

          2. The Elite Elite

            I’ve only ever been in entry level positions in my current and one and only previous job. There haven’t been too many projects that I was placed on that were out of the norm for the work routine. I guess looking back on some of them, I suppose there might have been a handful of times that I kinda sorta took charge/initiative. Just going to have to really exaggerate those I suppose.

          3. AlexinCT

            Cat herding 101.

        2. AlexinCT

          Most interviewing is BSing. What you need to ask yourself is how you would handle things, and then think about how you would react if you were someone working for the person that would handle things that way. I find that simple exercise usually leaves you making better leadership decisions. And remember that a bad decision made in a timely manner is better than no decision ever made.

          1. Jerms

            Fake it till you make it.

    3. Rufus the Monocled

      Picture a muppet masturbating.

      That should alleviate some stress.

      You’re welcome and good luck.

      1. The Elite Elite

        Wait, what?

      2. +1 Gonzo’s love of chickens

        1. Rufus the Monocled

          lol

      3. Scruffy Nerfherder

        I don’t know about Elite, but I’m more relaxed now. Thanks.

        1. Private Chipperbot

          He just said to picture it…

          1. AlexinCT

            Scruffy took the leadership decision and carried it a step further…

    4. Hyperion

      What I do is just refuse to think about it. What make me nervous is going over and over possible scenarios in my head and thinking about how I will react. I stopped doing that and now I’m never nervous at interviews. And I’ve done interviews with a room full of people, not just one or two. Just don’t think about it, you’ll be fine when it happens.

      1. Rufus the Monocled

        But isn’t the act of refusing to think about it, thinking about it?

        Ah? Eh? Hm?

        1. Hyperion

          No, not after the first time, you just automatically don’t think about it. But at some point, you have to make that decision going forward.

    5. Slammer

      Good luck, dude. Hope it works out for you!

    6. DEG

      Good luck!

  39. Just in case you thought being in the majority might give them a spine…

    https://ca.news.yahoo.com/house-republicans-mull-funding-extension-dreamer-deal-not-021837073–business.html

    you would be wrong.

    1. leonadasiv

      Why would it give them something they never wanted?

    2. majority might give them a spine…

      Chortle

    1. Hyperion

      Looks like some more victims are coming down the pipe. How can it be bad? We can never have too many victims.

      1. AlexinCT

        My experience has been that the harder a woman complains about the existence and use of porn, the more interest and addictive to it her personality actually is.

    2. PieInTheSKy

      ‘Sex addiction can happen to anyone’: author Erica Garza sheds light on a female taboo

      In her debut memoir, Getting Off, Erica Gaza confronts her experience of overcoming sex and porn addiction, and the shame that still surrounds it

      https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jan/17/erica-garza-getting-off-book-sex-porn-addiction

      1. ‘Then, just as she was about to turn 30, she took a trip to Bali “partly inspired by Eat, Pray, Love”’

        Totally not insane.

        ‘I met my husband – he was on his own journey recovering from drug addiction’

        Sounds like a recipe for a happy marriage.

        1. Rufus the Monocled

          Seriously.

          Add a dash of rosemary and….

          1. Rufus the Monocled

            Sprig.

            Sprig of rosemary.

            Sprig.

        2. AlexinCT

          You would not believe how many women think a shared life experience is what makes someone their best potential soul mate. I have often heard the “they get me, and that makes the connection better” thing, and wonder what there is to get.

          1. DEG

            I’ve noticed that in some ex-girlfriends. They’re ex-s for a reason.

          2. AlexinCT

            Yup…

            Been there done that. But it makes me wonder what it is about needing someone with shared bad life experiences to validate your own. I am not the type of person that wants to wallow in negative emotions or constantly rehash bad things unless it is to find a permanent solution and fix for the issues. Women just seem to have this need to keep talking about shit they have no intention of fixing just so they get empathy. And I have way too often ended up breaking up with someone because I pointed out that the reason we kept having the same discussions or arguments was that she wanted me to agree with or do what she wanted, no matter how trivial, whereas I could let go of things when they were unimportant. I ended a 23 year marriage over not being able to deal with that anymore.

      2. Hyperion

        Wow, things that give pleasure are addictive? Who knew? I blame the patriarchy. After all, aren’t they the ones who invented sex and beer?

    3. Count Potato

      “Robert said: “What I’ve seen is that women don’t show up looking for help in the ordinary places. It’s easier for a man to walk into a clinic and say he has a sex problem.”

      According to whom?

      “Sex Addicts Anonymous estimates as many as six per cent of Brits – roughly 4 million people – are battling a sex addiction, while Dr Patrick Carnes, who popularised the term “sex addiction”, estimates that one in five sex addicts are women.”

      She must be really busy.

  40. The Late P Brooks

    As an Indian American, I grew up hearing people discuss the misogyny of both Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. in hushed tones. I always found the quietness confusing. People whispered allegations of sexism like they were whispering the name Voldemort, a thing not to be named. However, as Professor Dumbledore taught us in Harry Potter, “fear of name increases fear of the thing itself”.

    Aaaaand…. I’m out.

    1. Rufus the Monocled

      And they say we’re not in an intellectual dark age.

      C’man!

      1. Hyperion

        We are, no doubt about it. And our so called institutions of higher learning are churning out a generation of dumbed down emotionally crippled snow flakes who will vote for anything the left can come up with, no matter how stupid and destructive.

        1. AlexinCT

          I still feel nobody has understood the consequences of this shift from demanding people be self sufficient and emotionally mature adults to be part of society to basically creating emotionally stunted people incapable of the most basic of things will have on civilization as a whole. Sure it makes for easy to manipulate and use drones for the top men running our system these days, but sooner than later, other civilizations that have not gone down this path of self destruction, will step up, and then things really will be bad. I hate to go to history for this, but every great empire collapsed from within as the people got to prosperous and lax, losing that edge that gave them the drive to make things better.

    2. leonadasiv

      FDR has a sad.

      Seriously, they have no knowledge of their own intellectual tradition. It’s why they are always rehashing old ideas. And this Harry Potter thing has got to be a contest on their part.

    3. What is the obsession over Harry Potter with these SJW-freaks? Is it just an extension of their delusional LARPing?

      1. Raston Bot

        Game of Thrones too triggering.

      2. The Elite Elite

        It’s the only book they’ve read besides A People’s History of the United States.

        1. Scruffy Nerfherder

          +1 Matt Damon Hawking Lousy History Books

          1. MATT DAMON! MATT DAMON BRING YOU POTABLE WATER! MAAATTT DAAAAAMON!

      3. Fine literature, shitlord.

    4. Voldemort and Dumbledore, sitting in a tree

      1. leonadasiv

        I mean in their twisted philosophy, if Dumbledore had been brave, he would have killed Voldemort as a child. Then everyone would be happy. Except JK Rolling.

        1. WTF

          Hell, Dumbledore had a device which allowed him to go back in time. He could have stopped Voldemort from ever being born if he wanted to.

          1. AlexinCT

            Now you used logic to ruin a plotline..

            See what you miss is that if he had done this, someone worse would have come along…

  41. The Late P Brooks

    Q’s Sun link reinforces an idea I have been toying with. For a lot of women (and men, I suppose), there is a powerful element of guilt and shame surrounding sex. I have not studied this exhaustively, but there seems to be a definite thread of “I’m not like that. I’m a good girl.” running through these #metoo tales of woe.

    Especially the Ansari one. They’re apparently having a jolly old time, but she feels bad about it, so she has to blame him. What the fuck did she expect? Flowers and a ring?

    1. Hyperion

      “What the fuck did she expect? Flowers and a ring?”

      This is what it’s all actually about.

      Some people are getting the flowers and a ring, I’m not, I get the occasional sex, but then the guy seems disinterested afterwards and never calls me until he wants sex again, which I gladly consent to, but then feel bad about because I’m never getting flowers and especially not a ring. But it can’t be my fault because I’m an annoying harpy who goes on 24/7 about stupid SJW shit that guys don’t want to listen to. It has to be someone else’s fault. Hey, I’ll blame all men, because it’s the trendy thing to do! Then I will get all the things I want! ! #MeToo, #MeToo! Look at me, pay attention to me! Love me! /the victims

      There’s nothing else there.

      1. stupid SJW shit that guys don’t want to listen to.

        But I want to listen! /creepy sneaky mangina

      2. leonadasiv

        It’s funny because they will freak out if you mention the old “why buy the cow if the milk is free” saying.

        1. Hyperion

          It’s just the same old same old misery loves company crowd. These people are miserable malcontents who just cannot seem to find out how to be happy or have fun. So they want everyone else to be miserable. The difference is that the internet has provided them with a huge platform. Otherwise, it’s always been like this.

    2. As I stated in my article last week, my interpretation is that relations with men and women have been fundamentally changed to such an extent that the mammalian brain is not really capable of adjusting. Sure, we can overcome it with concerted effort, but a part of human existence (relationships, attraction, sex, etc.) that was already fraught with confusing and ambiguity has become exponentially more complicated since the Pill and subsequent sexual revolution. There are many more conflicting demands placed on the brain now than there were before. Some part of her mind (unconsciously perhaps) *did* want flowers and a ring. Unfortunately, all this combined with feminism’s “every single thing you do is empowering no matter what and you should not be held responsible when things don’t go as you planned” results in truly batshit crazy behavior.

      1. Hyperion

        Yes, most men and women continue to think in the same way as they have for 10s of thousands, hell 100s of thousands of years of evolution. Then comes your social engineers who want to change all that in a few decades. Of course it leads to all sorts of undesired consequences.

        1. AlexinCT

          There almost seems to be an expectation amonsgt women that every sexual encounter will be perfect and reflect whatever mental fantasy they have going on. When that doesn’t bear out, too many of them, feeling regret and wishing they had not done it, resort to these sort of solipsistic rewrites of how things happened to mentally square away the fact their disappointment isn’t caused by their own problems but because the other person somehow was the problem.

      2. Slammer

        There’s an argument to be made that in the era before pre-marital sex these problems were less because if you took a woman on a date it was expected she wouldn’t put out…so there would be no point in asking or pressing.

        1. robc

          the era before pre-marital sex

          I don’t think that era ever existed.

          1. R C Dean

            Before the sexual revolution, then.

            The sexual revolution tore down all the fences. And its proponents are now standing around wondering why the animals are running loose.

          2. You might be on to something. There have always been “bad girls” and couples who figured they were going to get married anyway so what’s wrong with jumping the gun by a few months, but the presumption was always that a respectable woman was never saying yes and a…disrespectable woman, I suppose…was very obvious about it. There wasn’t middle ground, so there wasn’t confusion. I’m not saying that’s better or worse, but there was a clarity there.

          3. kinnath

            If a lady says no, she means maybe.

            If a lady says maybe, she means yes.

            If a lady say yes, she’s no lady.

    1. Hyperion

      Berkeley will blame the alt-right for provoking antifa to do violence. The only answer to this bullshit is to pull federal funding over the leftist bias from these ‘public’ universities.

    2. Stinky Wizzleteats

      She was on Molyneux yesterday, no mainstream coverage I’ve seen though.

    1. Scruffy Nerfherder

      And so it’s up to us to lead the way in confronting the private, intimate interactions that may be technically consensual but still profoundly sexist.

      Everything must be a political act, everything.

      1. leonadasiv

        So -cons are wondering how they screwed up with Gay marriage. They thought these were didn’t want to get the government into your bed.

        1. Lachowsky

          No kidding. The SoCons have to be jealous as hell of the modern feminists. They are way more successful at getting people to keep their dick in their pants than the SoCons ever were.

          1. wdalasio

            The SoCons have to be jealous as hell of the modern feminists.

            The SoCons were unsuccessful because they had qualms about crossing the “destroy innocent people’s lives” line. Their spiel was ultimately rooted in Christian morality, for which that’s still sort of a no-no. The social justice cadres have no such qualms.

          2. SoCons did not cross that line because they truely believed they were trying to help these sinners be more moral.

            Feminists are all about inflicting punishment on people they don’t like.

    2. DEG

      “Knottier issues”

      Hmm….

    3. commodious spittoon

      One wonders what Grace would have said if, after she first demurred, Ansari had told her, “Listen, I’m tired, I’m going to call you a car.” Because I get the sense that this girl had star-hunger fighting her libido, and if Ansari had shut her down and kicked her out before the awkwardness, she’d have been picketing outside his apartment the next day. That would be an unfair thing to say if it weren’t for the fact that she waited over a year to anonymously give an account to a little-known publication about bad sex with a B-list celebrity.

    4. Count Potato

      The Guardian is milking this story. Bigly. Not only is there this Jill Filipovic piece, but another from some criminal psychology student:

      “It is important to talk openly about all the various, subtle ways in which misogyny manifests itself, but using assault as a catch-all term feels reductive because it overlooks the nuances of an incredibly complex issue. While I don’t think such encounters should be excluded from the #MeToo narrative, I think we need to avoid discussing them in overly simplistic, binary terms like “nice guy” versus “rapist” and “good sex” versus “assault.” One-size-fits-all characterizations like these are unhelpful because they fail to recognize the fact that most men and most sexual encounters fall somewhere in between.

      For example, in the months following Harvey Weinstein’s fall, I have seen many well-meaning people echo the supposedly feminist rule that consent can only be given when sober, never while intoxicated. I am well aware that alcohol can be a form of coercion and a contributor to assault, and that people who are too drunk to know what they’re doing shouldn’t be taken advantage of. “I’ve been assaulted while drunk, [but] I’ve also had drunk sex I fully agreed to,” I said in the thread. “Feminism means allowing women the agency to tell the difference,” instead of treating them like children who need to be coddled with arbitrary standards for acceptable intimacy.

      People have asked me, “if you’re all about women’s agency, isn’t it enough that this woman felt assaulted?” Unfortunately, no – not when it becomes a matter of public accusation. Assault is not a feeling. Discomfort is a feeling, embarrassment and hurt and anger are all feelings, but assault has to have an objective definition because of the legal and social ramifications that come with it. When we act as though disrespect, harassment, assault and rape are all different words for the same thing, the conversation starts to lose its legitimacy.”

      https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jan/17/assault-is-not-a-feeling-the-aziz-ansari-story-shows-why-language-matters

      1. commodious spittoon

        Talking on the one hand about the mis- and overuse of “assault,” but glibly using “misogyny” as if it’s so obviously descriptive it needs no elucidation. Sorry, you’ve already invalidated your call for nuance.

        Also, some comedian on Twitter pointed out #metoo = Pound Me Too. lol

      2. As I’ve said, they’re panicking trying to walk this all back because their idols are being smashed with a much higher frequency than the enemy’s (read: Conservatives/Republicans etc.). They’re trying to put the toothpaste back in the tube.

  42. PieInTheSKy

    New training frequency study: 3x vs. 6x

    https://bayesianbodybuilding.com/training-frequency-3x-vs-6x/

    Conclusion: Intermediate male trainees achieve the same or slightly better strength development and muscle growth if they train each muscle group 6x compared to 3x per week, even if they don’t allow themselves to perform more repetitions with the higher training frequency. For the average trainee that doesn’t want to train that often, rest assured that you can certainly achieve good progression already with ‘just’ 3 full-body workouts per week.

    1. leonadasiv

      What about those of us who don’t want to work out at all? / Land whale

      1. Suck it up and get back to work(out).

    2. Tundra

      28 Male college students were put on a Powerlifting program split up over either 3 or 6 workouts.

      I could lift 6 times a week at that age, too. 30 years on, I’ll continue to take my rest days.

      1. WTF

        Same here. In my 20s I hit it hard six days a week, after working a very physical job all day. Now I need my rest days.

      2. AlexinCT

        Absolutely.. age and body conditions because of aging, matter.

        My ex-BIL recently told me that he had again injured his back weightlifting at the gym. After some questions he admitted he was trying to powerlift the same weights and with the same frequency he had been doing when he was in his 20s, now in his late 40s. He was not happy to hear that he was being an idiot thinking his body was not going to make him pay for doing that to it at this new age, and that it would only get harder.

    3. I did one program that has squats/bench pressin/deadlifts 3x a week. Toward the end of the program, you were doing them 5x a week. I got some great gains but ultimately got burned out doing it. So much repetition made it very boring, plus it was hell towards the last few weeks.

      1. Here it is

        Phase Two – weeks 9 & 10 – was the worst part.

        1. Tundra

          Yeah, pass. I’m sore just reading it. I rotate the big 4 lifts on a 3 day a week program, trying to move up in reps or weight each session. After lifting for the last five years, I don’t do any short -term programs anymore. They work, but as you say, you get so burned out you don’t want to see the weight room.

          I’m on the 30 year program now.

    4. Nephilium

      When the weather is good, I’ll have weeks where I’m riding almost every day. I’m not sure I saw better gains then the weeks where I was only able to get in 3-4 rides though.

    5. Private Chipperbot

      Six full workouts per week? If you’re pushing yourself, how the hell are you supposed to recover? If I did legs more than once a week, I’d end up in a wheel chair.

      1. commodious spittoon

        Wheel chair is just weakness leaving your body.

    6. I’ve been doing the Simple & Sinister program up until about a month ago when I switched over to the “Rite of Passage” routine from Enter the Kettlebell. The S&S program is based on doing the same two exercises every day at whatever weight lets you complete the number of sets you need to complete without losing form or getting too wiped out to do anything afterwards. I was pretty happy with strength gains after six months, going from 100 swings per day with a 16kg bell to 100 one-handed (50 per side) using a 32kg bell. To me, the best parts were never being sore and being able to knock out all my reps in about 30 minutes.

  43. Nephilium

    Banjos, I blame you for getting this stuck in my head now.

    1. robc

      Sing “All Good People” by YES. Guaranteed to get any song in your head unstuck.

      The line lengths are too long for brain buffer so it can’t get stuck itself.

      And if it does, you have a great song stuck in your head, so you got that going for you.

      1. Nephilium

        That just reminds me of this.

  44. The Late P Brooks

    Where are all those totally empowered and self-aware “hook up culture” chicks with an unfettered and wholesome animal enjoyment of sex I’ve been hearing about? Hell, one would be enough.

    1. Hyperion

      Cougars.

  45. PieInTheSKy

    How important is it for a man to look strong to get women? This new study found that perceived strength explained a major 70% of overall attractiveness. Adding height and leanness to the prediction increased the effect to 80%.

    The relationship was linear: there was no evidence of ‘looking too strong’.

    Previous results found weaker relationships between perceived strength and attractiveness, but those data were based on drawn images of men with different levels of muscularity, i.e. cartoons. This study used photos of actual men. Faces were not shown, so the effect of those was not assessed, only that of the body.

    Cues of upper body strength account for most of the variance in men’s bodily attractiveness

    http://rspb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/284/1869/20171819#F2

    1. Hyperion

      But, but… toxic masculinity! Women hate that!

    2. For ugly men – myself included – I suggest bodybuilding. If you can’t make it on facial features (or lack a personality), you might as well go for muscles.

      And, based on the female glazes I got last summer, it seems to work.

      1. My lack of a personality is my best feature.

        1. Hyperion

          I just try to look as mean as possible all of the time and just nod at people who are obviously intent on talking to me. Works wonders, evade annoying neighbors, works every time.

          1. I see you’ve been following my “how to make enemies and not influence people” plan.

          2. Hyperion

            ‘Hey, that’s mean old man Hyperion’s yard, don’t go in there!’

      2. Tres Cool

        I cook really well, and have a thing for chubby broads. The combo seems to work well.

      3. Hyperion

        “the female glazes”

        So, exactly what are they using to put that glaze on you? /I couldn’t resist

          1. Hyperion

            NTTAWWT

  46. Scruffy Nerfherder
    1. Stinky Wizzleteats

      I found the girl biting the table strangely arousing for some reason.

      1. Tundra

        Um, because she’s smoking hot?

      2. Tres Cool

        Mix it up with some Eazy-E/Johnny Cash?

        (lyrics likely NSFW)

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mLqdyfgVtCQ

      3. Scruffy Nerfherder

        Door handle dude wins the competition for best reaction.

    2. Rufus the Monocled

      Jesus.

      Who would win the Oscar for weirdest country: Japan or Germany?

      1. AlexinCT

        Sheizeporn!

  47. Mental borborygmos on Neo-Puritanism and #metoo:

    I’ve often considered libertarianism to be not necessarily and ideology, but defined as the absence of one; the less-is-more approach to prescriptive criticism of human behavior. There is almost no prescriptive aspect whatsoever except for the “don’t hurt people or steal their stuff” (read: NAP). In that, only libertarianism is equipped to handle the complexities of modern sexual interpersonal relationships. The primary reason behind this is that principle drives libertarian action and that principle logically leads to personal responsibility. It is the only inherently non-Puritan mainstream political ideology I can think of because it prescribes no set of behavior. I’m ok you want to plow through thousands of prostitutes and you’re ok I want to take a vow of celibacy. It’s baked into the respect toward the individual, no political baggage implied.

    I’ll give SoCons credit where credit is due; when it comes to man/woman interaction, they largely operate on principle too. They are and always have been Puritans in the modern sense of the word (ie: no pre/extramarital sex, no porn, no prostitution, in some cases no birth control, etc.). In practice, this lifestyle functions better than most simply because it has a set of principles. Millions of people live this way happily, however it still grates on me because it is a prescriptive philosophy.

    Progs, the so-called liberated ones, of course are anything but. The reason Puritanism is coming back en vogue is, in spite of large swaths of the population already holding de facto Puritan views before, progs control the cultural milieu to a large extent. They’ve spent the better part of 4 decades reacting against the SoCon set of principles and mainstreaming all manner of uncommon and unusual sexual predilections; porn, prostitution, swinging/casual sex and partner swapping, various kinks, etc. It’s easy for them to wear a mantle of liberation while doing this, however where they’re wrong is that their ideas are *always* prescriptive. Live this way because I told you to and other ways are wrong. Since they have no principles beyond the lust for power, it was inevitable that once this concerted effort reached a certain saturation level (we have middle-aged Mom publications like Redbook advocating for open marriage as a way of improving your life for G-d’s sake), there would be a prog backlash. The “power structures” and “distribution of pleasure benefits” or whatever such bullshit buzzwords they use were not to their liking, so they had to switch the script in order to regain the upper hand (read: regain the power).

    /Ken wall of text

    1. straffinrun

      Libertarianism can be seen as a letting social pressure be the legitimate form of correcting ultimately harmful behavior that only harms the individual involved. Prescriptive in the way that it denies the biggest tool that statists believe in; government coersion in voluntary exchange. If you deny the legitimacy of X and the only solution that can address the problem is Y, then you are prescribing a way of life by default.

    2. Akira

      I think “progressives” always fight for what they think benefits women (whether it actually does or not is a different story). They thought the “sexual revolution” would be good for women, so that’s what they supported. Of course, many women today are not very happy with the results, particularly because men of moderate wealth and status can get as much free sex as they want, and there’s little motivation for them to get married; in fact, there are many legal and financial downsides for men to marry these days. Sure, marriage is great if you find “the one”, and she doesn’t change her feelings over time or get “bored”, but the fact is that more men are finding that marriage fails a cost-benefit analysis.

      In light of this, “progressives” are trying to find some way of giving women more power. I think one manifestation of that is the #metoo movement and the idea that a man should be thrown in jail and lose his job on a woman’s say-so.

      1. Hyperion

        “Of course, many women today are not very happy with the results, particularly because men of moderate wealth and status can get as much free sex as they want, and there’s little motivation for them to get married”

        I just wonder what has taken them so long to get around to ‘marriage equality’. Marriage is a right, you know.

      2. wdalasio

        I think “progressives” always fight for what they think benefits women (whether it actually does or not is a different story).

        I think you’re too generous. I think they’ll always fight for what they think harms men. Some women benefiting through increased power is just a fringe benefit.

        1. AlexinCT

          Everyone should read up on female hypergamy and how it drives women and the way they think…

    3. wdalasio

      They’ve spent the better part of 4 decades reacting against the SoCon set of principles and mainstreaming all manner of uncommon and unusual sexual predilections; porn, prostitution, swinging/casual sex and partner swapping, various kinks, etc.

      I think you’re missing something. They’ve been all in favor of all sorts of various kinks and sexual alternatives. The one option they’ve always looked down on was traditional, man-on-woman monogamy. The same people telling Redbook readers that open marriage is the way to go are the same people pushing feminist neo-Puritanism with regard to sexual relations between men and women. Their aim is to assign guilt to anyone and anything that is part of the status quo.

      1. Hyperion

        The status quo is what is oppressing them. Because it can’t be their own fault that they are unsuccessful, lonely, and/or miserable. It must be the fault of people who have failed to be victims. Either you’re a victim or you’re the problem.

    4. Suthenboy

      “In practice, this lifestyle functions better”

      There is a set of habits and behaviors that greatly increases the chances of happiness and success. Monogamy, good work ethic, impulse control, sobriety, solid parenting, etc. which roughly corresponds to social conservative values. For anyone that believes in self-ownership the so-con approach of mandating that lifestyle by law is offensive but at least the so-cons objective is to strengthen society. Proggies on the other hand have the destruction of society through demoralization as their goal. That’s what they are about now and what they have always been about. As my wife said not a week ago – “Yes, the Southern Baptists are puritans and prudes but you couldn’t find nicer or more hospitable people anywhere.” Progs…not so much. There is a reason most of the people getting burned by #MeToo are not so-cons or libertarians.

      The ideal is having a society with a large majority of so-cons but not having any of that behavior proscribed by law.

      Says the guy buzzing on vodka at 9am.

      Maybe I should just lurk today.

      1. R C Dean

        Monogamy, good work ethic, impulse control, sobriety, solid parenting, etc.

        Does 4 out of 5 count?

        1. Suthenboy

          Yes, it does. Aside from the sobriety I stick to those pretty well. I absolutely never go out of the house if I have had even a drop to drink so it works well for me.
          After my divorce I dated around, if you want to call it that, quite a lot. Believe me, there is a shit-ton of crazy out there. I almost got to the point of living like a monk before I met the current wife. Now I am 21 years into a happy marriage and they have been the best years of my life. No offense to Q but every time I scroll through his links I just think…no…no…no..no….not a chance…no….go away…nope…
          No gambling, stay away from drugs and drug people, dont run around on my wife, stay out of trouble…my life is peaceful and we have more money than I ever dreamed we would.

          1. commodious spittoon

            No gamboling? Fuck off, slaver!

          2. Akira

            I absolutely never go out of the house if I have had even a drop to drink so it works well for me.

            That’s my policy as well. Drinking at bars – at least the bars around here – sounds like nothing but drama. No fistfights or DUIs for me.

          3. Suthenboy

            That’s a problem in and of itself. If you dont lose a job, end up in front of a judge, lose a marriage then you dont have that warning signal.

          4. Akira

            I had two very good warning signals that I was drinking too much: 1) gaining weight, 2) being incapable of doing much of anything on Saturday or Sunday because of the previous night’s drinking.

            I’ve been cutting it back over the past few years. I rarely have a hangover anymore; the worst thing I experience is being extra-thirsty upon waking up.

            I think bar-drinkers might also have a hard time controlling their drinking because many of them have no friends other than people from the bar. My former alcoholic stepfather told me that when he quit drinking, he had to make all new friends because he had literally no social circles that were not centered around some bar or another.

      2. Hyperion

        “Proggies on the other hand have the destruction of society through demoralization as their goal.”

        They all suffer from a certain delusion where they see themselves as the ones in power breaking some omelets once society has broken down and the great revolution takes control. They never see themselves lined up against a wall. And history repeats itself.

        1. Suthenboy

          If you have your own resources and dont depend on anyone else when the SJShitbirds come around and start making demands you can just tell them to fuck off.

          They hate that. To have power over someone they must be dependent on you. Broken families, empty bank accounts, rampant crime, etc are their currency.

      3. This is an important point. I’ll go so far as to say that a behavior is prescriptive *if you want happiness/success/whatever as a certain outcome*. SoCon values are certainly tried and true, and it’s no coincidence that most “intentional communities” promoting all manner of alternatives are typically unsuccessful. (See Oneida Colony, one of the first communities built around complete sexual liberation, in the 19th century no less; surprise, surprise people eventually started having children, falling in love and wanting monogamous partnerships)

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oneida_Community

        I can’t say it as well as you did, but there is a big difference between recognizing that certain patterns of behavior are more likely to end up with happiness, and prescribing that behavior as a mandate. There *are* people that are not, and will never be, truly happy living the bourgeois, monogamous lifestyle and they should be free to live that way; no prescriptions in either direction.

  48. Akira

    OT: Does cold exposure damage smartphones over time?

    I go jogging no matter how cold it gets, and I carry my phone in a little side holster attached to my fanny pack. That holster is usually covered by a sweatshirt.

    I’ve recently noticed that my phone will turn on and off randomly. There have also been two occasions where it appeared to run out of battery, but wouldn’t charge up or turn back on for several hours. Yesterday, it took so long to turn back on that I thought it was dead for good and ordered a new phone. It’s probably time for a new one anyway.

    Do you think the cold exposure could have fucked up the internal components somehow?

    1. Cold can impact a battery, but these also have issues just from aging. How old is the phone?

    2. Scruffy Nerfherder

      Not likely. Electronics are resistant to cold in general. Temperature shocks and moisture are more damaging.

      My guess is that the phone gets very cold and then you go inside to a warm, relatively humid environment where the cold phone will get soaked internally from condensation.

      1. Nephilium

        ^^This right here.

        It’s also a cause of failure that most people aren’t aware of.

      2. Lachowsky

        We have outdoor cranes where I work that won’t operate if the temp is below 18 degrees. The electric motors are controlled with transistors. The IGBT transistors will crack if they are gated at that low of a temperature.

        That doesn’t mean anything about smartphones though. These are big transistors capable of handling 250amps at 480 volts. I imagine what’s in your phone is not nearly as sensitive to temperature.

        1. Scruffy Nerfherder

          Yeah, power electronics are a different beast. The instant temperature differential created when you switch them on causes failures.

          Cellphones can have battery issues, but those are generally temporary. Permanent damage generally comes from two avenues, moisture and temperature cycling. The lead free solders are prone to tin whiskering over hundreds of temperature cycles, causing shorts on the board.

    3. Private Chipperbot

      It’s embarrassed by the fanny pack and trying to kill itself.

      1. straffinrun

        Thank you. Oh, boy. That’s why I come here.

        1. Don’t you have a pocket you can use, girly man?

          1. straffinrun

            Hey, I simply laughed. Take it up with Chipperbot.

      2. Akira

        LOL, don’t worry, I’m embarrassed by the fanny pack too. But that’s the only way to carry my CZ-75 Compact, my phone, and some toilet paper (yes, I’ve had to use it many times).

        1. spqr2008

          TP works as tissues and TP.

        2. Raston Bot

          CZ unleashing some cool suppressed barrels at Shot Show this month.

        3. RAHeinlein

          Try SCOTTeVEST

        4. AlexinCT

          You are not the one leaving the “human waste land mines” out there on my hiking trails are you?

          1. Akira

            Nah, I go way off the trail behind some brush… Although one time, I had to go in a cluster of trees on the side of a suburban street; it was either that or shit my pants. It was late at night so nobody came by, but if a car would have driven up that street, their headlights would have been right on me.

          2. AlexinCT

            I ran into a guy that was leaning up against the tree right on the path dropping a deuce, and he was pissed when I pointed out he could have made life easier for everyone if he had just gone into the bushes to avoid both being caught in the act and leaving his crap for others to step in. He acted all indignant and shit, so I took his picture and told him it was going on the innertubes for all to see if he kept giving attitude.. Calmed the douche right up.

    4. I have that same problem when I go jogging or work outside in winter with my iphone. The battery drops very quickly and the phone has even shut itself off.

      But once I’m back inside or in the car the battery level goes back up and everything operates normally.

      1. Private Chipperbot

        I had same issue when I had an iphone. Guessing it was combo of GPS, running app, and music. I would melt through a charge on longer runs. No issues with an android, so I don’t know if it’s related to Apple trying to mess with the processor.

        1. Tundra

          I took the dog for a walk yesterday for about an hour. I held my (OnePlus) phone most of the way and had zero battery issues. My kid’s iPhone dies really quickly even in an inside pocket.

          Does Apple use a different battery tech?

        2. Semi-Spartan Dad

          I spent about 5 hours working outside in the 20s a few weeks ago. No problem at all with my Samsung Galaxy.

          1. Lachowsky

            I have carried the same Samsung S5 for more than 4 years in Temps ranging from the teens to 150+. Aside from putting a new battery in it a year ago, it has had no issues.

          2. Semi-Spartan Dad

            Mine’s a S5 too. I think it’s been 3 or 4 years since I bought it off ebay and still running strong. Maybe one new battery.

    5. Hyperion

      Actually, if your phone gets cold enough, it will transform into an interdimensional super conductor that you can use it to time travel. Just find somewhere it’s like 40 below and stand there for a few hours holding your phone, I swear this works!

      1. Tres Cool

        +1 Weird Trick!

        1. Akira

          Theoretical physicists hate him!

      2. Lachowsky

        If you ever get your phone wet, the best thing to do is to turn it off and put it in a bag of rice.

        The rice will attract Asians who will come and fix it.

        1. Gilmore

          lol

    6. Pope Jimbo

      Maybe it actually overheated? I have a sleeve to hold my phone on my bike and I’ve had it overheat and the symptoms are that it shuts down and won’t charge or turn on until I take the battery out and let it cool down.

      Being stuck under a sweatshirt and next to your sweaty body might be enough to overheat it? No idea, just throwing out a contrarian opinion.

    7. Gilmore

      cold exposure

      no, but moisture and constant shock (from jogging) can fuck things up

  49. The Late P Brooks

    In practice, this lifestyle functions better than most simply because it has a set of principles.

    I’m going to make a bid for “World’s Worst Analogy” here:

    In the 21st century NFL, what is, or is not, a “catch” seems to have no consistent definition from one minute to the next. The definition of “a catch” is completely fluid, and is subject to what appears to be utterly random interpretation, following minute frame by frame examination of a phenomenon which took less than a second in real time.

    If my relationships will be subjected to frame by frame post hoc analysis of what was, or was not, “consent” or mutually acceptable acts, based on fluid or completely undefined interpretations of what any of that means, I’m going to stay the fuck away from women. Which will, of course, make me a raging misogynist and patriarchal oppressor.

    1. commodious spittoon

      The definition can be found in Schrodinger’s… never mind.

  50. Suthenboy

    Good grief. It’s 14F and we have had a couple of inches of snow for two days now. Or so I am told…we have been holed up in the living room with a nice fire and I am already day drinking.

    1. Lachowsky

      it’s gotten all the way up to 8 so far today. That’s not normal for around here.

      1. Suthenboy

        It isnt normal here either, but not entirely unheard of. I can think of a dozen or so times over the last 40 years. Hell, when I was 10 we got snowed and iced in for two weeks.

        1. Lachowsky

          The last time it got this cold here was in 2007 if I recollect right.

          In 2001 we had an ice storm that covered most of arkansas a lot of Oklahoma and a portion of Oklahoma that shut the whole state down for a couple weeks. There was over an inch of ice on everthing.

          1. Suthenboy

            ’93 here. In april FFS. No fruit, no acorns that year. It was awful. I remember four does came by my stand that season and they were so skinny I took my rifle back to the house and went back to the feeder with corn.

    2. leonadasiv

      In Utah we’ve had almost no snow this year and only a few days below 20. It’s been a nice winter.

      1. Ditto in CO. I disagree with the “nice” description though.

        /likes cold and snow

    3. Climate change strikes!

  51. The Late P Brooks

    Cougars.

    Can I order one from Amazon? Because that would be helpful..

    1. The natural habitat of the cougar is at a mid-priced bar that serves Cosmopolitans, or at a Hilton hotel. They often travel in pairs and can be identified by their noises that often sound like the word “ex-husband”.

    2. Hyperion

      Well, I can assure you that you can find plenty of them online, but Amazon doesn’t have them, yet. When they do, and you can return them after one use, Bezos will be the first trillionaire.

    3. AlexinCT

      That will depend on your age..

      A young man ordering what we would consider a cougar based on his age might be pleasantly surprised…

      A guy in his 50s might not like the 70 or 80 year old that shows up..

  52. straffinrun

    MRA’s edited Star Wars. The latest Stars Wars and MRA’s. I don’t think so.

    1. straffinrun

      But for what it’s worth, it can now at least be viewed without feeling nauseaus about most of the terrible big and small decisions they made in this film. Also, at least the intro sequence is now very watchable and actually much cooler without all of Leia’s nitpicking. Now it’s all one united Resistance fighting without inner conflict and that’s much more satisfying to watch. Due to the extreme shortening, the whole movie is much more fast-paced now, at times unfortuantely also rushed due to a lack of usable filler footage.

    2. Scruffy Nerfherder

      Whatever, men who would waste their time actually doing that are probably not going to get laid any time this century.

      1. straffinrun

        It’s funny that they go after MRA’s and MGTOW’s. “These guys keep leaving us alone and try to take care of themselves! Selfish bastards!”. Slap fights are the best kind of fights.

        1. wdalasio

          It’s funny that they go after MRA’s and MGTOW’s.

          Not really. The MGTOW route is perhaps the greatest danger to their agenda. If men started cutting women off, modern feminism, as a movement, would be dead within a month. And women would kill it.

    3. The Elite Elite

      Yeah, I saw a story about that last night. Here’s a story highlighting even more progs getting triggered by this.

      1. Rufus the Monocled

        ‘Not found’.

        That’s gonna be on my tombstone I think.

        1. commodious spittoon

          404 HEARBEAT_NOT_FOUND

        1. Rufus the Monocled

          Makes me want to make a rebel movie with only white males in it.

          Just to troll.

  53. Private Chipperbot

    It’s sorta like Highlander. Man claims sanctuary in church to avoid deportation.

    On Tuesday, facing deportation on Jan. 25, Rranxburgaj, 48, sought refuge at Detroit’s Central United Methodist Church, one of many declared sanctuaries for immigrants facing expulsion as the Trump administration cracks down on illegal immigrants living in the United States.

    1. wdalasio

      It’s sorta like Highlander.

      Does that mean Trump will experience The Quickening if he decapitates him on leaving holy ground?

      1. Private Chipperbot

        How else does secret Nazi president gain power?

  54. straffinrun

    A feminist TV host tries to take on Jordan Peterson. “Why come you don’t try to help da wymens?”

    1. straffinrun

      I need to sell this better. Well worth the listen.

      1. Just Say’n

        Add a girly pic. That always seems to bring people in

        1. Tres Cool

          I hear Q is available for consultation.

          1. Tres Cool

            SCHWING!

      2. RAHeinlein

        Listening now – thanks for the link. I am loving the schooling on multivariate analysis…

        1. straffinrun

          Fun stuff, no?

          1. RAHeinlein

            I’m embarrassed to admit I haven’t previously listened to Jordan Peterson…

          2. straffinrun

            Check out his Joe Rogan interview if you have the time.

          3. His manner of speaking puts me to sleep. I don’t mean this to denegrate the man, but he is a cure for insomnia.

    2. Scruffy Nerfherder

      Jesus, she’s horrible. I’m only 8 minutes in and she’s already directly misrepresented what he said at least five times.

      1. Raston Bot

        i hit the same wall. the 9% pay gap and multi-variate analysis of said gap. she’s out of her league on the subject matter.

    3. Raston Bot

      fun interview. he finally starts to call her shit out starting at 18m.

      1. Raston Bot

        and she steps right into the cut at 22/23m.

  55. Pope Jimbo

    Nice example of Minnesoda Nice.

    Despite the pain from an injury suffered during the game, Saints punter Thomas Morstead was the first player from the opposing team to come back on the field for the mandatory point-after-touchdown kick after Stefon Diggs’ last-second, game-winning race into the end zone.

    Vikings fans noticed the act of sportsmanship and responded by sending a few thousand dollars to Morstead’s charity, What You Give Will Grow, an organization that focuses on pediatric cancer.

    1. B.P.

      And he will forever remember the time he lined up as a defensive guard for one rep.

  56. Count Potato

    “It’s widely agreed Aziz Ansari did not commit sexual assault. But on campus, as @robbysoave importantly points out, Ansari could be facing expulsion for the “bad date.” Failing to accurately read a partner’s body language has ended the educations of many male students.”

    https://twitter.com/EmilyYoffe/status/953389960828194816

  57. B.P.

    Goddammit, my incredibly important post was eaten. From the drunk Kentucky doctor article:

    “Gerstle is a physician at Lexington Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery who specializes in the treatment of migraine headaches…”

    A plastic surgeon specializing in migraines. Isn’t this trepanning?

    1. Have to let the evil headache spirits out.

  58. Count Potato

    “As other laptop observers have pointed out, Grace’s experience is hardly unusual. There’s even a name for it, as Bari Weiss noted in the Times: bad sex. And bad sex can happen to any people who have sex, not just when there’s a dick involved (either literally or metaphorically). Grace’s encounter—and the terrible sex in the New Yorker’s recent blockbuster short story “Cat Person”—strongly reminded me of most of my 20s. I wasn’t sleeping with men (unless there were no women in my zip code and there was a large amount of tequila), but—at the risk of betraying the sapphic sisterhood—lesbians can and do have bad sex, too…. although I suspect we’re more likely to have a pair or two of cat eyes watching us bone from the litter box. Perhaps there is an unfortunate power deferential between men and and women that makes these icky encounters more traumatic when it’s a man and a woman, but we’re acting like this is something men exclusively do to women. But, in my experience, women act just like Ansari did with Grace pretty damn often as well.

    I had a lot of bad sexual encounters in my own roaring 20s: sex that was just sloppy, regrettable, and gross, and, sometimes, sex that I really did not want to be having. When these things happened, just like Grace, instead of pulling up my pants and leaving, I closed my eyes and soldiered on. People have pointed out that when women reject men, they get killed, but in those situations, I was never afraid for my safety. And yet I hooked up with people when it felt wrong all the time. The thing I was afraid of—the reason I didn’t stop—was hurting the other person’s feelings.

    This happened all the time: I’d be in some sexual encounter, her kisses would feel like a slug had taken up residency in my mouth, and because I felt too awkward and uncomfortable to say anything, I’d just go along with it. Sometimes I’d even spend the night, maybe cuddle a little, and continue to pretend I was interested the next morning just because it was less awkward. And, then, when enough time had passed, I would text her and say I was moving to Atlanta. Lying, making excuses, or just disappearing was easier than potentially hurting someone’s feelings in-person. This isn’t because I’m an uncommonly empathetic person (I am not), but because I avoid discomfort at all costs. I think a lot of women (and men) are like me in this respect.

    Maybe this wasn’t part of Grace’s experience, but it is hard to be direct, especially about sex. And that, I think, is what people like Grace and me and Cat Person need to start doing: We need to get over our discomfort with discomfort and hurt some goddamn feelings up front, when it’s happening.”

    https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2018/01/16/25716056/before-we-burn-aziz-ansari-perhaps-some-self-reflection-is-in-order

    1. Fuck this. Burn Ansari. Burn them all. Let them have this and then completely own it once it all implodes in spectacular fashion.

      I may be misquoting, but I think Sun Tzu said something along the lines of “destroy your enemy utterly by giving him what he wants on your terms”.

    2. Akira

      People have pointed out that when women reject men, they get killed

      Um… Do you have any numbers on how often this happens?

      1. Lesbians do have the highest rates of domestic violence of any couples.